[allison844]

I was never married to my ex, but we had a child together. While I was pregnant he never wanted me there and kicked me and the baby out when she was 6 weeks old. He didn't talk to us until she was ten months old. He decided then that he wanted something to do with her, after I filed for support from him. I finally found out that he had a girlfriend since I was seven months pregnant. He was still dating her while we were supposed to be working things out. He also went to rehab while our daughter was three months old. His girlfriend was doing the drugs with him. He just got allowed to have her every other weekend. He said his girlfriend wouldn't be there, because I asked her not to. He lied, and she was over at his apartment last weekend. I feel that my daughter is in danger when she is with them. What can I do, and am I able to open our case back up and keep her from going there this weekend because I feel that she is in danger. He brought her back last weekend with her pants soaked in urine because her diaper was so full. What do I do? I know I need to see a lawyer again, but can I open the case and keep her from going?

[justcurious55]

I don't know if the cases were reopened or if they counted as new cases but I've seen custody orders changed plenty of times because one parent was able to make a case against the other. I don't even know how many times my parents custody agreements were changed. And it seemed like the custody agreements for just one of my little cousins changed every month because one parent was always accusing the other of something (I think you have valid concerns, but my aunt would take my uncle back to court for the pettiest little things, like when he put my cousin in a diaper instead of her pull ups once). See your lawyer. If you can't stop visitation all together maybe you can at least get supervised visitation for her so you know she is in a safe environment.

[Greg Quinn]

Normally you would have to prove that the child is in danger. If you have no proof, it is likely that you would just be paying more money for a lawyer but see very little results. Unfortunately soiled diapers are not much of a case. I know how you feel having your child with irresponsible people who randomly want to play house. It always helps to document all interactions and issues for a later court date in the future if something substantial should arise. Having his girlfriend over with the history of drugs is not a very pleasant thought at all, but I'm hoping they are trying to woo each other over with how great they are with kids. That's what got me through the tough times, good luck.