[dyno2727]

This is the first time I have done this but am at my wits end with a girlfriend I really love .
We have been together nearly 2 years but about 6 months ago we moved away from our home town for my work . That's where the trouble started .
She is usually a care free party girl but she did not adapt well to such a big change . I have tried to include her in everything I do ,my new mates get on well with her but she always has an issue with something .
She blames me for moving here and that she left all her friends for me and I am sick of it . She has even started hitting me in rage which isn't all that bad as she is only 50 kgs and I'm 100kgs but still I don't deserve it .
I pay all the bills ,rent ,flights home and holidays and she still thinks I take her for granted . In her defence she does cook for me and make my lunch and she gives me $200 a week that helps bay and over all $850 weekly bills which I am happy about as I earn more than her but in reality I still pay $650 to her $200 and I'm not penny pinching but I'm just letting you know all the info.
In the last week she has told me she hates me and doesn't want to share the bed with me ,she says I don't show her any affection anymore ,which may be true to an extent but its hard to cuddle someone who gives you so much grief, she has threatened to leave and referred to our relationship as a one , I agree, we were so good at the start but something has changed , do I take her for granted or is it the other way round ,I need an brutaly honest opinion as things definitely need to change .
Thanks

[Gernald]

Sounds like one screwed up relationship to me.
Have you tried just sitting down with her and talkinga about how it makes you feel. Maybe taking her out on a date and just being alone the two of you, and acting like things before you moved. Or maybe trying to get transferred back to your home town with work?

Maybe you should see a therapist too, she sounds like she's gone mental in the last few months!
Personally, I wouldn't put up with it. Life is too short to be hit and told that your hated everyday. If you're financially stable on your own and can tell her to leave and get out, do it, If you think that's the right thing. She might be using you, and all the yelling is just breaking you down. She won't leave because she needs you, instead if it comes to it you need to leave her.
In the end, it will be your decision on weather or not she's the one. But personally she sounds like a real nut case... tell her to straighten out or leave her.

[talaniman]

For whatever reason she is not happy. I suspect she wasn't all for this move in the first place. Ask her if she wants to go home and if she does, help her get there. Some time away may put things in a better perspective , as it seems working together, isn't working, and talking isn't solving anything either.