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helpplease · Jan 19, 2006, 03:38 AM

OK I am new,. I have been with my husband for 2 years and he has problems ejactulating, I thought he didn't have any problems until recently he said that he doesn't know why. However he can control himself, (what I mean is when he is hard he can make his penis move up and down and things like that) he also has his penis pierced however he has said that he has always had problems blowing... is it me or should we see a doctor?? I am worried that we won't be able to have children as a result of this... please help me thanks

fredg · Jan 19, 2006, 06:30 AM

HI, helpplease,
Welcome to this site, and I am sure you will get many answers to your question. It's a fun place to be, with many good people here. You can also answer some questions yourself, if you wish!
If your husband has never talked with a doctor about this, sounds like it's time to do so. A Professional can give him help.
If you both are really concerned about it, then maybe both of you going to Marriage Counseling might help, or some group, that might be free, for talking with others with similar problems.
If you are thinking of having children, you definitely want to find out why this is happening. I do wish you both the best of luck.

augustknight · Jan 19, 2006, 06:54 AM

The fact that he can ejaculate, even if not always, combined with a sufficient sperm count will enable him to impregnate you. I assume you are talking about his inability to ejaculate during vaginal sex. Or just sometimes. Some men need to be excited manually to ejaculate. As some women need to stimulate the clitoris to reach orgasmism. Try more foreplay, manually and/or orally to heighten his level of excitement before he enters vaginally.

PrettyLady · Jan 20, 2006, 01:19 AM

Helpplease, ejaculation problems are common and treatable. It may be anxiety that's causing the problem, try to get him to relax. You can help your husband build more staying power by practicing some techniques that delay immediate gratification. He can begin learning how to do this when he's masturbating, and you can also work on this together. Try stimulating him with a hand job and then stop and let him arouse you for a while, before turning your attention back to him. This will help him to learn how to exercise more control. If your concerned about your husband's blowing, then you should have him see a doctor. However, if the doctor doesn't find anything wrong with him, you may want to pursue seeing a sex therapist.