[rewoprm]

Me and my girl have been up and down and kind of on and off recently. Her ex is also calling her again. I don't know if that is why we have been up and down or if we have just been up and down and now that he is calling at this moment we are not sure about us it scares me that she may turn to him. I can tell when she has heard from him as she acts different, upset and non affectionite. That makes me feel horrrible and upset as I KNOW why she is acting that way and she says she is fine and is obviously not. She wants to break up cause she reckons I'm no fun to be around as I'm always upset and that makes her non affectionite etc but I'm like "im up set because your non affectionite" its like a big circle if you get me? And she has spoken about him in a not sure if she wants me or him and puts it back on us being **** lately. What do I do if she can't see the circle and that its not me ruining it, its her acting weird every second day or so after speaking to him! Anyway I just found out that
38 minutes ago - 3 days left to answer.
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38 minutes ago

I just found out that a new guy at my work is friends with her ex, small world or what. There is this place me and her and all our friends hang out on Sunday evenings (night club / pub) through conversation this guy mentioned her ex went there about 3 - 4 weeks ago, mentioned it as he never goes apparently. Well about 3 - 4 weeks ago I went with her and when we were getting ready at my place she made this urgent phone call that she had to make out side? Instead of in my room if its private like she normally would, I walked outside and she nearly died! Looked as though was argueing etc on phone, then after the call was flustered and then backed out of going to the place. "it was her idea to go!?" then I convinced her to go etc and she was just acting strange and when we parked and walked to place would not hold my hand etc, left her phone at home (never with out it ever) once again the non affection bringing me down, obviously he was there or going there, should I tell her I know?
38 minutes ago

She uses going back to him as what I see to be as a threat to me to shape up or ship out, thing is that it does just the opposite of what she wants to achieve (that being her and I being happy and fun together like when things were good) it just brings me down and there for justifies in her mind why we should break up, I'm like well if you didn't go all weird on me every time you hear from him and let it affect us! Like I siad, big circle hey. Should I confront her about knowing her ex was coming to that place and that's why she was acting strange? Or is it not worth the argument considering I knew deep down inside, but it is a CLEAR example I can give her to explain what the prob is cause this time I know it was fact, or could it back fire on me if say he was not there and it was a different week and just co incidental she was acting weird that day?. I know I know, break up with her but still I can't cause I just need her to see its not me and its this dam circle. End it!
37 minutes ago

Yeah I have no doubt she is talking to him, face to face even, and I doubt that she is telling him we are even together so she can sus things out with him and see if its worth getting back together with him. As for sleeping with him etc I severely doubt it, based on her and what I know about her etc and the situation it pretty much could not happen, anyway I guess its still cheating if she is "hanging out and dating him so to speak and making out me and her are not together" ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!
37 minutes ago

Yahoo can only explain it in somuch detail, its always more complex in real life to eplain why I am still hanging in there, so saying get rid of her is hard to swallow as trust me I have thought that one through many a time,. but so far I don't truelly want to and yeah I do want to fight for her but maybe I should not fight for her and just go with the flow and not stress out about it? If she leaves me for him then that's life, cause if I'm not breaking it off with her I can't really complain can I? I'm stupid!!
36 minutes ago

Taking a break to let her resolve what she needs to.yes I think that is the SMART answer but I could not take her back should anything physical happen between them, its just the way I am, like we are still together but I guess we are just taking it slow now, guess that's the space she is after so she can resolve these issues with him etc, but it is at my expense so kind of sucks... I do want to ask her if ANYTHING physical has happened from a kiss to well you know, but I'm just so sick of investigatin and argueing etc if you know what I mean? I just can't be bothered digging for the truth and creating the argument. So yeah I can't let her go even for a break as it would just complicate things if we got back together, a break is an easy way to say its over for good, as she knows I would not take her back if anything happened etc
22 hours ago

If she don't want to be with me then why don't she just break it off?! So she can have us both around at her beckon call to suit her.
33 minutes ago

No complaining about the long post! I'm 26 she is 19 (yes that explains a lot I know!) point is I'm sick of fighting about it and even though it is a circle if I want her so bad then I should just end the cricle by being myself and not letting it bother me so she will see why she fell for me and why I'm so much better... kick her to the kerb etc I know but hey if I was going to do that I wouldn't be here asking you guys... so end it myself (the circle that is!) and just get on with being happy and if I loose her then at least I took the high road?

[Homegirl 50]

This made me dizzy. You are up and down on and off, sounds like a shaky situation. Leave the young girl alone.
Is this ex boy friend closer to her age?
If you are going to let what is basically a teenager string you along, you deserve it. Again, leave the girl alone. Stop playing her game.