[LIFHgrl823]

:confused: my problem isn't big, but for a 15yr old, it is.
See, there's this guy, ed (I swear that's his name), and my best friend, caitlin, used to like him. A lot. He was all she could talk about for then entire spring and summer of 2007. She thought ed was the cutest and coolest guy ever, and he's two years older than us.
When she told ed she liked him, he acted like a real and said that he didn't like her in the rudest way, saying that they never hang out and she's so annoying, always asking him, and that he never did want to hang out with her.
So, as you can see, caitlin thinks very poorly of him.
But, when she liked him, as duty of a best friend, I became friends with him so that I could learn more about him for caitlin. We really bonded over hockey and baseball because he liked the exact enemies of my favorite teams. When he made caitlin cry when he told her he didn't like her in that way, I didn't talk to him for the rest of the summer, but when school started again, we couldn't avoid him. Ed and caitlin never talked, but ed would come up to me cause even though him and caitlin never really were friends, we were. Now it's January, and caitlin and him talk sometimes, ed and I talk sometimes, maybe a shove in the hallway or an IM or two, but we talk strictly on hockey. Caitlin says she's over him, but she still gets pretty mad when she finds out we've been talking because she thinks that ed's a total , and I don't think he is at all. We even got into a little argument because she said that she knew him better than I did, but I told her that's not true considering we talk more than she does with him, and she got even more mad.
Now ed and I are really good friends, and talk about school, friends, and hockey. I look at him in a new light, like how he is kindof cute and how he's charming and sweet. He flirts a lot with me but I didn't think he likes me that way because we're just really good friends, but his friend told me that all he talks about is me, and wanted to ask me out.
I don't want to date him if caitlin still has feelings about hating him, especially since I'm her best friend, but I don't want to damage my friendship with ed, and I think I might be starting to like him...
But there's still the fact that ed treated caitlin like dirt that one time, but then there are all the other times that he didn't.
What should I do? Should I stay friends with ed? Or tell caitlin that I kindof like ed? Or other?

[Princess-IMYM]

I'd say wait it out for a while.
I seems like your friend hasn't gotten over her pride being hurt, so if you start dating the guy she hates most right now, there's going to be huge conflict.
And also, you said that his friend told you he liked you. Well friends say a lot of thinks and sometimes it isn't true, and you don't even know if you like him back. So wait a while, see if your feelings develop or not, it's not best to decide straight away after you hear a rumour.

[nkychic]

I agree... you need to wait it out. As for being friends with him... you are breaking NO friend code by doing that. I know that Cait is your best friend, but you can have more friends. I've always said.. I love my friends no matter what, but my friends don't have to love each other. Sure in a perfect world we would all get along, but we're not in a perfect world. Continue being friends with him. If Cait cares for you the way you do her, than she would never make you choose between the two of them. As far as dating the guy... don't entertain the idea until he has said something to you. Good luck with everything! Let us know how it works out...

<3 Leslie