[ForeverZero]

If you don't know, look me up for my breakup story like a year or so ago. After the breakup I started sort of rekindling things with my first love from high school, and she died in a car accident.

When we talk, I'm not myself. I'm not a mushy little love puppy, I'm still largely dissapointed in her. I feel like I spent 2 years looking out for her even when she wasn't, and she doesn't see things that way. Largely she has a hard time standing up for herself and she refuses to tell the truth that might hurt somebody's feelings, instead tells the lies that just make everything worse. Don't get me wrong, she's grown lots since we last spoke, but I don't think she feels like I'm the one that did all the suffering to get her there, I feel like I'm entitled to a lot more of her honesty than I'm getting. She still skirts the difficult questions and is still far more comfortable letting me believe lies than she is absolving her guilt by telling the truth

Ultimately, she thinks that I'm still holding a grudge against her because I'm bitter about the breakup or whatever, she thinks I'm just holding things against her for no apparent reason. I don't think she feels like I'm upset that she still lies to me and I still know it. This chat happened in November, haven't said anything since.

I feel like I want to let her know that there's a place in my life waiting for her if she wants to grow up and take it, but the ride isn't free. I expect a lot of the honesty I gave her, and I expect the dedication I gave her when she needed it most, which she isn't ready/willing/able to give to me now. I'd like to know if I'm being unreasonable with my request, and how I should tell her this, because it's hard to talk to her.

Assume that I'm going to do this, good idea or not, I'd like your opinions on how I should do this, and weather or not I'm being unreasonable etc.

[talaniman]

Your expectations are outlandish, and your wasting your time, expressing them to someone you have broken up with. Sorry, but your mind is playing tricks on you, and I hope you see that before you start something you can't finish. Leave it alone and move on, please.

[TrueFaith]

Your feelings are way to strong. Take outside views..

Your mixed up you should leave her alone.

[thegirlishurting]

Leave her alone if you can't accept the way she is. IF you try to force yourself on this, prepare yourself to be disappointed.

WHen you love someone, don't expect them to change for you. We have our own individualities that best deals with the outside world, if she lies for the best interest of those involved, there's nothing you can do about it.

[ForeverZero]

Yea, I sort of changed my mind about the whole thing half way into my day. I just can't shake the feeling that there's some magic thing that's going to make her see things the way they are, and I've tried countless times before, only to be met with failure.

It's especially disappointing to see that she's tried to get me back without having held up her end of the bargain as far as growth goes. I'll let it be, I've got other things going on in my life anyway, I have enough friends, I don't need her.