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    Braden23 Posts: 39, Reputation: 5
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    Jan 28, 2008, 07:30 AM
    Why does she act like this?
    I got involved with a co-worker who had a boyfriend. She was unhappy with him and we started hanging out, as friends at first, but then it progressed to more. She broke up with him because she was unhappy, but now they're reconciling, or at least I think. I'm pissed off because I feel like she used me, and then when she got tired of me, she threw me aside. What bothers me the most is that I tried to walk away twice and when I did, she didn't want me to, so I stayed. I feel like she got what she wanted the whole time; she wanted me, and now she wants him. How can someone act like that? And do you think she'll get away with it? This sucks because I feel like I got crapped on, and she gets off scot-free. Please help.
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    Jan 28, 2008, 07:39 AM
    Yeah, you pretty much got used. You were her self-esteem booster. You made her feel good while she was dealing with his crap. Sad to say that he's the one she wants.

    Hopefully again you won't fall for a girl's line... "He makes me so unhappy." Plus besides, would you really want some chick who aired her dirty laundry to co-workers? Because if you were the boyfriend, I bet you wouldn't like her complaining about you to other men. Not cool.
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    Jan 28, 2008, 08:37 AM
    We have all been there my friend you were used bud. But not in a sens you think she didn't have her boyfriend and you seemed like some fun.

    Just take it as a fun time yeah it sucks being used but this girl sure isn't the girlfriend typ.

    What she did to you was very dumb. In the end she will look like the tart. Because she had a boyfriend went with you. To the people that count she will look in the wrong

    Regards
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    Jan 28, 2008, 09:52 AM
    Don't put all the blame on her, as you had enough fair warning to have avoided this situation. To late to cry now. Learn your lesson, and move on.
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    Jan 28, 2008, 02:35 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman
    Don't put all the blame on her, as you had enough fair warning to have avoided this situation. To late to cry now. Learn your lesson, and move on.

    Good point. Unfortunately most people don't learn quickly and keep repeating the same mistakes over and over.
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    Jan 30, 2008, 05:24 PM
    True Faith: what does "Arnt you mr bright side: D" mean? Could you try spell check or a dictionary?
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    Jan 30, 2008, 05:33 PM
    Sounds like the classical case of the rebound. Bad idea to allow yourself to become one. You knowingly got yourself into that situation because you knew she had a boyfriend with whom she was unhappy (at least initially) and she broke it off with him once you came along. I almost think she used you as a decoy to dangle in front of her boyfriend, with the idea of "either come back to me now or you'll lose me for good." In the future. Avoid getting serious with anyone who's on the rebound. If you don't now whether they are or not, find out.

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