[Queen0804]

I have been talking to a great guy for a month now. Him and I connect so well, I mean we talk for hours and hours. 7 or 8 hours per night and every night. He discovered that I am the woman he's been looking for all his life and that he thinks that I am his other half. We have so much things in common. I mean I like him and all but I never been on a date with him. And I always make excuse about it. I feel so comforatable talking to him on the phone but as far a seeing him is not an option for me. He thinks I don't like him but I do I am just not feeling as comfortable seeing then talking to him. What should I do??

[Wondergirl]

What should you do? Meet with him.

Why your shyness? Is this normal for you? (And how old are the two of you?)

[shygrneyzs]

Why is seeing him not an option for you? Are you married?

[Queen0804]

NO I am not married but I just don't feel like seeing him. HE is 25 and I am 21

[ISneezeFunny]

... well. You want to talk to him but not see him... why is that? Obviously, there are reasons. How did you guys meet/start talking?

[Marydoll]

Go for it! You only live once...

What if this is your solemate and you let him slip out of the net?

[N0help4u]

Meet him for lunch then it can be as a friend thing and not like a date where you might feel you are saying we are bf/gf.
If you keep making excuses he might give up and move on and you could be passing up a great guy.
You will never 'get comfortable' with him if you don't meet him.

[shygrneyzs]

If seeing him is not an option for you because of age, then stop talking to him now. End this useless and dead end street relationship. If you cannot get past the telephone, then why bother at all anymore?

Something else must be going on here. Are you holding back because of your past sexual experience? Are you still seeing that married guy?

[Queen0804]

NO I am not seeing him any more... He is Historyyyyyyyyy..
It's not like I am scared to see this guy because of age difference. Is just that I don't think I would feel comforatable being with him face 2 face. We've met in a restaurant and he started talking to me and I thought he was very nice guy because he helped me get my car started after we both came out from the restaurant and ever since we connect..

[shygrneyzs]

I am glad you ditched the married guy - that was a recipe for disaster and you were bound to be hurt by him.

About this guy now. If your heart is telling you to back off, perhaps you should listenn. Maybe your subconscious is picking up something about him. You should not feel pushed into anything you are not ready for. If you are happy with just talking to him and nothing more and he is happy with that - who are you hurting? But do not have any unreasonable expectations for this type of relationship and of yourself.

[talaniman]

A little gunshy maybe, afraid of getting hurt??

[chrissy32290]

Well if you feel comfortable talking to him on the phone and your being yourself then why would you feel uncomfortable meeting him? But then again if he is shy it can get awkward but I say go for it.. you guys obviously like each other and have a good connection so why not