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    Jan 11, 2006, 10:27 PM
    Worried and frustrated
    Hello, I have a problem that I am a little concerned about. I’m 18 years old, and I can’t reach an orgasm, threw masturbation or sex. But when I was younger and first discovering my body, I could reach an orgasm very quickly without any problem at all, even multiple times. But in the last year and a half or so its become harder and harder to reach one, and I'm afraid its almost impossible now. I bought a vibrator even, and nothing seems to help. I'm very frustrated, and I'm afraid my boyfriend is too. I understand that many woman do not have an orgasm during intercourse, but it feels like we have both tried everything. I'm afraid maybe there is something wrong with my physically… Any advice? Do you think I should see a doctor? Thank you so very, very much, I really appreciate it. - Sara
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    Jan 11, 2006, 10:30 PM
    Quit trying to have one and just let it happen. Tell your boyfriend what feels good and tell him to keep doing it. Good luck
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    Jan 11, 2006, 10:36 PM
    Yup, I know
    Yea, I have tried that... I mean, I don't care if I do or I don't when I'm having sex, but I can't even get slightly close... it seems like I have tried everything!
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    Jan 11, 2006, 10:43 PM
    Are you enjoying sex with you boyfriend? I'm not trying to be rude but if you are not then that may be the problem. You may need to change the scenery. Istead of the bedroom all of the time try the couch. Try acting out a fantacy. Different positions. Oral sex. Props, bondage Is it his goal to make you have an orgasm? If not, it should be.
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    Jan 11, 2006, 11:48 PM
    I think your biggest problem is all your worrying about and stressing over is how often or getting an orgasm. Too many people start focusing on the orgasm. Making love to someone, feeling like your totally melting in your partners body, kissing and touching and carrasing and a lot more. RELAXATION IS THE KEY. You have to stop focusing on the orgasm is the most important part of sex because it is not. Your stress is what is causing this problem in my opinion.

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    Jan 11, 2006, 11:50 PM
    Oh, and try not masterbating or having sex for a while. Wait for a while. Believe me it might help as well.
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    Jan 11, 2006, 11:56 PM
    My boyfriend is doing NOTHING wrong. He is SO GOOD its incredible! That's why I feel so bad that I'm not even close with him in the least. He feels really bad about too...
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    Jan 11, 2006, 11:58 PM
    If your not close to him then I guess that would explain your situation?
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    Jan 12, 2006, 01:09 AM
    No no, I'm very close to him... I mean I can't get close to ... not even slightly almost close
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