[jamiimaj]

I'm a recovering alcoholic. My husband drank very heavily when we met. (Before I quit) He drank some mornings, at work, while driving... I believe he is also alcoholic. He has agreed with me in the past but now believes he has no problem with it. He supposedly quit drinking when I did. This was something I considered a foundation of our marriage. I believe this was true for a couple of years but since our marriage 5 years ago, I have caught him drinking periodically. He is likely not drinking like he used to. I think it is occasional and not excessive. He lies to me EACH time he drinks. My concern is that he will eventually catch back up to his old drinking habits and that we will have completely separate lives, at best. I am hurt and I feel betrayed. I have asked him not to drink and he has declared that I am the one with a drinking problem and he intends to enjoy his life. He loves me but he feels this is my problem and his solution is for me to stop giving him a hard time about drinking. He says he lies to me because I react negatively to his drinking. I do not want to discard this great guy if I am truly making a big deal over nothing. I also don't want to sit back and wait for him to show me a repeat of past behavior. I feel hurt that he would let me go before he would give up an "occasional" cocktail. Am I over reacting or wasting time?

[N0help4u]

Try not bothering him about it for awhile (like maybe a week or so) and see if it gets worse or better.
You know the saying "drivin' me to drinkin'"
Don't give him an excuse to want to drink or at least to not try and blame you.

Alcoholics do not and will not see their drinking as a problem
They have the lines like
We're not Alcoholics, we're professional drinkers. Alcoholics go to meetings.

Find a balance to back off a little but keep him in check.

[450donn]

Sorry I have to disagree. Coming from a family where my mother was the alcoholic, I have seen the effects it has on a family. You need to continue on your road to recovery, and you need to confront him once and for all. If he is unwilling to admit that he is a drunk and refuses to get help, your only choice is to get out of the situation. This is not your problem, but you are stuck with it until he is ready to admit his problem and get straight. I sure hope that there are no children in this situation?