[pencilsandpaper]

I've been seeing my boyfriend for a little over a year. We've been through a lot with each other. Just recently I had surgery in December and I wanted him to be there but he made up an excuse and didn't go. I know that part of the reason was my parents being there, he doesn't like them even though he's only met them once. So he felt really bad that he did miss the surgery after I had it. But the whole reason he missed it was because he was going out of town to visit his family. He was adopted and he's always complaining that they treat him like it, so he called me a lot during two weeks. I wasn't that happy on the inside because I still resented him for not going to my surgery. I was drinking with some friends one night and I ended up telling him how I felt and that I thought we shouldn't talk until he came home. I forgot that I said it and the next day for a whole week after I tried everything to get in contact with him. He wouldn't answer his phone or call me back. He's finally home and has been for a whole week now and we haven't seen each other or spoken except for online or through text messages. I'm really sad and I've been swaying on the idea on whether to let him go. For me to be happy I have to talk about what's going on in my head and my heart and he won't even listen to me. He knows that, so I'm not sure if it's my fault or really what to do. I feel like I should be able to call him at anytime and he should pick up or come over so that we can fix the problem so that we can both feel better. He's been acting like it wasn't a big deal, but things are definitely not the same anymore. What should I do or say?

[peggyhill]

Well, see if you can sit down together and talk things out. If he doesn't contact you, then you will just have to be patient. It may be that a good talk will clear the air. The bottom line is do you want to be with him and does he treat you right? If you are happy with him, then it's worth some work to save it. If you have doubts and don't think he is right for you, then let him go and don't waste your time. I think you guys should try to talk it out before you decide. But, if he won't call you or talk to you, then it may be he doesn't want to be in the relationship. Only time will tell. He might just be a little hurt right now and maybe needs some time. Good luck!