[aquajg]

Originally Posted by aquajg


Hi,

I have a question and I am wondering if you can help me figure out what the cause may be. My boyfriend is 27 yrs old and I am 31. I have notice that sometimes he can go for quite a few days without having sex with me, now I know that a lot of times he gets up to go to work very early in the morning and has a long drive back home, but when he gets a day or two off work I notice that he ejactulates alone when I am at work and not there. Well you might ask how I know this... thats because I can tell that his boxers are not in a great condition if you know what I mean and I also find that he will watch a porn during that time, sometimes he does not watch a porn. I can also tell by the toilet paper that are left a mess, I might sound weird doing this, but it is the only way for me to figure out what is going on. I know for a fact that he is not seeing anyone else, but maybe I am do not excite him like I did before, we have been in a relationship for a little over 2yrs know and I can say our sex drive has change and I know this can be normal, but is the ejactulating part normal or is he wanting to have sex with someone new? Sometimes he does mention that it gets boring and I wonder what does he mean by that? "new ways, new ideas, lingerie?"... or someone else. I also have lost about 13-15 lbs and I now weigh about 125lbs. He tells me that I am to skinny. Do you think that has something to do with it. I would appreciate your opinion.

[hollylovesbrandon]

Hello. I think when he says he's bored it could just mean that he got bored so why not jerk off! My brother-in-law does that a lot. And maybe you did get too skinny or he's just using that as an excuse. Many things could be happening, he could just be really tired and would rather jerk off than put forth the energy to sleep with you. I would have a talk with him.

[Fr_Chuck]

You could be having sex three times a day and he still might be masterbating. For many men this is fairly normal.

And I like that go a few days without sex, if you were saying it was a few weeks between or a few months, but no,
I don't like the watching porn, because it often gives a wrong ID of what to expect form your sex partner

[Choux]

I notice that this is not your husband, it is your boyfriend.

It's been two years, girl, time to get married or move on and look for someone else. There is no denying that a good marriage is an ideal situation for a woman. Your goal with a man is to find a husband! If you don't have a husband, you are *always* being taken advantage of. Good husbands are terrific. Woman can really open up sexually when they are married.

You have a lot of things to discuss with your boyfriend. Forget about the masturbation, all healthy men masturbate. You have other more pressing issues to get to the forefront of your relationship.


Good Luck to you in the coming year,

[crystalbivens]

I notice that this is not your husband, it is your boyfriend.

It's been two years, girl, time to get married or move on and look for someone else. There is no denying that a good marriage is an ideal situation for a woman. Your goal with a man is to find a husband! If you don't have a husband, you are *always* being taken advantage of. Good husbands are terrific. Woman can really open up sexually when they are married.

You have a lot of things to discuss with your boyfriend. Forget about the masturbation, all healthy men masturbate. You have other more pressing issues to get to the forefront of your relationship.


Good Luck to you in the coming year,

OK this has nothing to do with what she's saying, it has nothing to do with the fact that their "not " married.
Before I married my husband we lived together for many years and even had a son.
Seven years AFTER we met we got married.
So NO honey don't just rush into marriage, when it's right you'll know it and no one can tell you any different.
NOW for the real question you asked, I wouldn't worry too much about this, it's very normal and very common for men to do this.
Perhaps it's just a stronger sensation when he does it himself or it could just be that's he is to tired to put forth the energy.
Do try talkng to him and let him know that it worries you to think that you can't meet him expectations.
But be sure to mention that weight lost and make sure that's not a problem, although I don't see why it would be.

[babyrayblue]

I notice that this is not your husband, it is your boyfriend.

It's been two years, girl, time to get married or move on and look for someone else. There is no denying that a good marriage is an ideal situation for a woman. Your goal with a man is to find a husband! If you don't have a husband, you are *always* being taken advantage of. Good husbands are terrific. Woman can really open up sexually when they are married.

You have a lot of things to discuss with your boyfriend. Forget about the masturbation, all healthy men masturbate. You have other more pressing issues to get to the forefront of your relationship.


Good Luck to you in the coming year,

All healthy women masturbate! And it's perfectly natural. There's always ups and downs with libido. The sex drive... The real question is whether you can cuddle. Get cozy at the end of the day and really enjoy each other for being who you are. And quit finding his rags. That's gross!
At the very least!! You should talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel.

Good Luck!