[calel]

About two months ago my girlfriend and I stopped seeing each other. It was kind of a mutual thing. She needed more time with her kids. I understand her needing time with her kids, they are more important than I am. But it was kind of a sudden thing and it felt like she was using her kids as an excuse to give us some space. We talked a few times for a week or so and it seemed like she wanted nothing to do with me. So I stopped talking to her. Figuring if she really wanted me around that she would talk to me first. This did not work out. So a month later I called her and it seemed that I blew the relationship. We decided to stay friends. I still missed her, but figured I could move on, which I started to do. Then she got a new boyfriend, which made me a little jealous and I started to think about her a lot. She is now single again. I want to tell her how I feel and that I want her back. But I don't want to say something and push her away completely. I saw her the other night, we tried having a chat on web cams. She could here me, but I couldn't here her. Stuff I don't know how to fix. Anyway... it felt really good to see her. After a while we gave it up, but while I could see her I got the impression that she wanted to see me for reasons other than just talking. Just by the look on her face. But I'm one to easily read too much in to things. I pick up signs that I think mean something, but really don't. I'm not sure if I'm just lonely and I want her back for companionship. Or if I really want her back because its what I really want. Any suggestinos??

[Bluerose]

calel,

I'm sorry but if there was anything going on there you would be together. She used the kids as an excuse to call it off as a way of trying not to hurt your feelings. No one ever tells anyone the real reason why they are calling it off. You should accept her reason the truth might hurt more. Besides the important thing isn't that she used the kids as an excuse, the important thing is that she wanted to end it. You might be able to stay friends but it might be on her terms because she does have the kids to think about. If you still feel so strongly about her why not write her a letter explaining how you feel but that you won't push for anything unless it's what she wants too. Don't text, don't email, write a nice but not mushy letter explaining your feeling and that you think there could be a chance for you both. If she does not respond or her response is not what you would have liked, try to accept it and make plans to move on with your life.