[ak1200ii]

I am with this awesome guy. Everything is going well. We have this friend that owns a plane. He is a billionaire. My boyfriend and I are being invited to go to various locations all over the U. S. probably around 3 times a year with all expenses paid. The only bad thing about this is that we are entitled to join them at strip clubs for one night of each vacation. I know that while he was single, my boyfriend has had previous experiences at strip clubs with this group of friends. It makes me uncomfortable with him going while we are boyfriends. I do not enjoy my boyfriend looking at some other naked guy. I personally do not enjoy strip clubs and never have. I think they are sleazy and the guys who go there are the same. My boyfriend says that I am being judgmental but I beg to differ. I think that money cannot buy you happiness so I discard the fact that money is buying all of this. I feel inside that I'd just rather not even go. I would rather have a nice one on one romantic vacation as opposed to a group get away involving sleazy scenarios. We can't agree on the situation. Please if anyone knows what I should do, let me know. Thank you. :(

[Bluerose]

ak1200ii,

Quite frankly, I don't think there is anything you can do. Has your boyfriend been going on these vacations before you met him? What strip clubs are and what type of people go to them is all a matter of opinion, and you are entitled to yours as he is to his. Have you ever been to one? I have and they can be lots of fun and not at all sleazy. Looks like all you can do is let him know how you feel. But if he wants to go you can't stop him without jeopardising the relationship. Why not go along and try to enjoy yourself. It's just a trip. And I don't think "If he cared about me he wouldn't go." is going to work here because it could also be said that if you cared about him you would go.

He isn't really looking at naked men, he is having a great vacation with some friends who just happen to have included a strip club into their plans. Money can't buy a lot of things. He doesn't sound to me like he is trying to buy happiness - he is going on vacation! You and he can enjoy nice one on one romantic times the rest of the time. This marvellous vacation opportunity only comes around two or three times a year. It won't last forever. Go with him now and have him to yourself the rest of the time. Who knows it may even bring you closer. Forgive me, but you may need to loosen up a bit. Fun is fun, even 'sleazy' fun, so long as no one is getting hurt. Like they say, you'll be a long time in your deckchair on your porch. Get out there and have some fun! ;)