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    Jan 14, 2008, 05:00 PM
    Need advise with relationship
    Please help me, I broke up with my partner recently because he says that he dosen't trust me, everything started because I saw some text messages from this other girl and I asked him and he told me that between them there was nothing going on, then he checked my old cel. And found a very old picture text message that I has sent to a person that I had met but it was only a friend he even called me and I had told him to leave me along, but when he asked me I didn't want to tell him and made up stories, like that I didn't know him and things like that but then he said so lets call the person that's when I got nerves and told him who he was, but I did it because our relationship was so beautiful that I didn't want to mess it up.

    I love him and ask him to give me a second chance but he says that he doesn't trust me, I moved from the house to an apartment, he says that he knows that I have not been unfaithful and have not slept with anyone be he can not be with me, before leaving the house I cleaned everything, washed all his clothing and even bought him some grocery and made him food, he tells everyone that I am a good women and he loves me.

    In his past relationships they cheated on him, robbed him and even tried to kill him, he recently came from Iraq and is seeing a Military Sicologist for this, and he says he dosen't trust anyone.

    I really love him and don't know what to do, I don't drink, I don't like to hang out, I just loved to be with my son and him at the house and have everything in order, I feel good because until the last minute I was a good wife.
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    Jan 14, 2008, 06:33 PM
    One lie broke up a perfect relationship, and now your separated. Leave him alone to deal with his issues. He may be to fragile for reason, and you shouldn't press. How long have you been on your own??
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    Jan 14, 2008, 06:49 PM
    It's only been a week, but he knows I love him, the bad part is that no one cheated on know one. I just think that if he know I am a good women he would come at least to talk.

    But as you say talaniman, he has a lot of issues. Thank you
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    Jan 14, 2008, 08:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by taina1999
    Please help me, I broke up with my partner recently because he says that he dosen't trust me, everything started because I saw some text messages from this other girl and I asked him and he told me that between them there was nothing going on, then he checked my old cel. and found a very old picture text message that I has sent to a person that I had met but it was only a friend he even called me and I had told him to leave me along, but when he asked me I didn't want to tell him and made up stories, like that I didn't know him and things like that but then he said so lets call the person that's when I got nerves and told him who he was, but I did it because our relationship was so beautiful that I didn't want to mess it up.

    I love him and ask him to give me a second chance but he says that he doesn't trust me, I moved from the house to an apartment, he says that he knows that I have not been unfaithful and have not slept with anyone be he can not be with me, before leaving the house I cleaned everything, washed all his clothing and even bought him some grocery and made him food, he tells everyone that I am a good women and he loves me.

    In his past relationships they cheated on him, robbed him and even tried to kill him, he recently came from Iraq and is seeing a Military Sicologist for this, and he says he dosen't trust anyone.

    I really love him and don't know what to do, I don't drink, I don't like to hang out, I just loved to be with my son and him at the house and have everything in order, I feel good because until the last minute I was a good wife.
    I think you should give him some space but still show him your there for him and that you love him and that you are sorry. But don't pressure him, think about what will make him more comfortable. Or just get in his shoes. I know how you feel! But I'm sure if you really loved each other, everything will be OK!
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    Jan 14, 2008, 08:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by taina1999
    It's only been a week, but he knows I love him, the bad part is that no one cheated on know one. I just think that if he know I am a good women he would come at least to talk.

    But as you say talaniman, he has alot of issues. Thank you
    I know its hard, and I think he knows what he has done so give him time to settle down and think for a while. Are you acquainted with his doctor??
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    Jan 18, 2008, 12:32 PM
    Hi everyone, actually I am not acquainted with his doctor, what happens talaniman is that he goes to a military doctor, because he recently came home from Iraq, he is a soldier and was at war for a year, he hurt his back because they throw a bomb at his vehicle , and I think that's part of the things that are going on he has to many things in his mind.

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