[jsmithNY82]

If a mother claims you are the father during pregnancy and then pretty much denies you are once it is born but still keeps your parents around, doesn't want you on the birth certificate or to pay any child support, and refuses a paternity test,(she is basically telling everyone else I am the father but denies it to me) is there anything you can have her sign so that she doesn't come back for back child support later in life if she does change her mind. I was still planning on sending her some money every month just for good measure but if she refuses it now and then later comes back and claims I am the father again I know I will have to pay anyway. Also, I am estranged from my own parents because of my mothers severe emotional abuse and she is planning on being a big part of this child's life but I am concerned for this child after what she has done to me and my brother. What can I do to keep her away from the baby? Any input would be appreciated!

[donf]

Yes,

Do you believe yourself to be the father of this child If you are, than that comes with rights and privileges all by itself.

You have the moral and legal right to know and be a part of this child's life.

Make an appointment with child services, request a DNA test, which in most situations is done with a swab run along the inside of the infant's mouth.. Once you are confirmed as dad, the state will take care of everything else.

That's the way it worked out for son and granddaughter. A little different circumstances but the net result being he dad! Oddly enough, it was mom who kept refusing the DNA testing, but still claimed my son as dad.

We, my wife and I, didn't really care because the child already owned me after her first wink! 3 years later, the Commonwealth finally figured that our son was more than willing to come up for the test. He was living in Florida and mom and our grand-baby had moved in with us. 12 years ago she became legally our granddaughter, but as I say, to late!!