[younglady13]

At this christmas eve party at the house of parents this dude my mom dated in high school there was his 16 nephew and all the time he looked at me even my mom noticed like once we were leaving and I was walking down the hallway and he was coming out of the bathroom connected to the hallway and as iwas walking down he stood to the side and stared at me passing I wouldn't be talking about this except my mom has been invited to this all women dinner and babysitting is included a couple blocks down from the dinner party house and he is the babysitter and I'm going be babysat by him for 2 hours and not to mention there is 3-4 years older except its hard to tell because were both the same height he srta seems nice but is 4 years difference too much?? :confused:

[Fr_Chuck]

When he is 24 and you are 20, it will be great, but you are 12
16 minus 4, so at 12, no you would not even be dating and it is certainly too young to be involved with a 16 year old.

[talaniman]

If your saying your attracted to your babysitter, its not unusual. Younger females often are attracted to older males. I do question the wisdom of leaving you unchaparoned with a 16 year old though. Talk to your mom.

[raggablue]

If your saying your attracted to your babysitter, its not unusual. Younger females often are attracted to older males. I do question the wisdom of leaving you unchaparoned with a 16 year old though. Talk to your mom.

Its not his fault she fancies him

[talaniman]

its not his fault she fancies him

That's not what I was alluding to. It was the adults decision to trust a 16 year old boy, to watch a 12 year old girl. The fact she has a crush on him makes it a lot dicier, and I hope they can make better arrangements. Just me though, I tend to be protective of young females. (older ones too) I am not comfortable with this arrangement.

[ScottGem]

If he is responsible enough to be trusted to babysit, he's hopefully respnsible enough to not take advantage of it. At 12, you are still on the young side to be considering boy-girl relations.

[younglady13]

I just met him and said I thought was okay doesn't I fancy him and what you from the 18th century and there's a guy at my school I like already

[oneguyinohio]

Boy crazy? Got to keep up with mom or what??

[Fr_Chuck]

No, we are in today's society where children are childrn and should not be trying to be adults yet.

Hopefully your mom will not be allowing improper time together

[younglady13]

What do you mean by that?? [i really have no clue so don't think I trying to be a smartbutt]

[oneguyinohio]

I'm wondering why you are interested in the 16 year old when you say you already have someone you like at school? You asked if 4 years was too much so that shows your interested in him.

As for the part about "Keeping up with mom?" I am wondering if you are trying to model your life after your mother...

[EuRa]

This is a big problem. You and your mom both noticed this guy staring at you? You are attracted to him? It's possible he's attracted to you.

I agree with Talaniman. You should tell your mother asap. If she doesn't see any problem with it, then that's her choice. But if I were her, I'd exercise caution. Talan, as usual, is 100% correct.

[younglady13]

Thank you its nice to know someone cares to give advice because most people don't care

[ScottGem]

First, it would help to understand you if typed in real sentences. Second, if you are commenting on someone else's comments, it would help if you quoted those comments or addressed the person.

I don't know if your remark about the 18th century was directed at me, but kids are being pressured to grow up WAY too fast these days. They are being thrust into making relationships that they are not emotionally able to handle. So, I repeat, at 12 years old, you are still a bit on the young side to be considering boy/girl relationships. You will be surprised how much you can grow in just the next two years.