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    Raazipond Posts: 33, Reputation: 2
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    Jan 6, 2008, 10:20 AM
    Just cannot get into a relationship
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    Hello there
    I am 26 yrs old and have not yet got a sensible partner for a relationship.
    I work for an organization that gives me total work satisfaction.
    At work I am hard working and my colleagues enjoy working with me. Back home, I am a cheerful person, and a responsible daughter.

    I have however noticed that I am unable to get into a personal relationship with any guys.
    I I pushed myself into a relationship for an assumption that I was not getting into one(yes I hurried) and ended up burning my fingures for a loser.
    But the story continues. I cannot get into a relationship.

    I see most of the girls of my age already getting along with guys so well and have partners.. I don't know this is probably taking away my confidence level. Please help?
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    Jan 6, 2008, 10:31 AM
    Ok, so you have heard the old saying when you meet the right person you will know it. It is true. Don't force a relationship, go on dates, meet different people and when it happens oh boy, you will know it. Just hang in there and have fun... you are you enough to still have a life without the baggage (kids, mortgages, etc)
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    Jan 6, 2008, 11:26 AM
    Enjoy being single and having fun, you just have not found the right guy to share your happiness with. Why settle for anything less to show others? Be happy who you are and enjoy it.
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    Jan 7, 2008, 02:39 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Raazipond
    :confused:

    hello there
    I am 26 yrs old and have not yet got a sensible partner for a relationship.
    I work for an organization that gives me total work satisfaction.
    At work I am hard working and my colleagues enjoy working with me. Back home, I am a cheerful person, and a responsible daughter.

    I have however noticed that I am unable to get into a personal relationship with any guys.
    I as a matter of fact I pushed myself into a relationship for an assumption that I was not getting into one(yes I hurried) and ended up burning my fingures for a loser.
    But the story continues. I cannot get into a relationship.

    I see most of the girls of my age already getting along with guys so well and have partners.. I dunno this is probably taking away my confidence level. Please help?
    Hmm, may be! But... I am losing confidence in me, thinking I do not have "the thing" to be liked by someone.
    Also, I do not even feel any liking for anyone in particular! I speak to a casanova property or a simple man just with same respect.
    I do not like much of socilizing. I am very focused about the work(sometimes even called my my friends as a nerd) and being the best at what I am doing. I can't even think I am going to like a guy ever. I think the feeling does not come to any one on me.. I am very depressed and upset.
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    Jan 7, 2008, 02:40 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman
    Enjoy being single and having fun, you just have not found the right guy to share your happiness with. Why settle for anything less to show others? Be happy who you are and enjoy it.

    Hmm, may be! But... I am losing confidence in me, thinking I do not have "the thing" to be liked by someone.
    Also, I do not even feel any liking for anyone in particular! I speak to a casanova property or a simple man just with same respect.
    I do not like much of socilizing. I am very focused about the work(sometimes even called my my friends as a nerd) and being the best at what I am doing. I can't even think I am going to like a guy ever. I think the feeling does not come to any one on me.. I am very depressed and upset.
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    Jan 7, 2008, 07:05 AM
    Don't be upset, I have an idea, how about casual dating? No relationship, mind you they take a long time to develop, but dating to get your confidence and be comfortable with the going out to have fun, with no expectations. By the way, getting upset because of no romance, is a trip down a dangerous road, because your happiness is YOUR responsibility, not some man you think you need. If you do not love yourself enough to build a life (outside of work) that makes you happy, that's a red flag as to personal issues you must address. Finding what you like to do for fun is the key. So my question is, what do you do for fun, outside of work??
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    Jan 7, 2008, 07:42 AM
    Yea, enjoy being sungle while you still can. You can't search for love, you have to let it find you
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    Jan 7, 2008, 10:00 AM
    I go adventure sports, gardening, cooking, watching movies etc...
    The thing is this. I am introvert, shy by nature. When young as a pretty girl, I felt threatened when I used get too much attention.. (I don't know if you can believe).
    That continued and I stopped talking to boys at school. I have never been comortable with any men around... I hope it is natural?? :confused:

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