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Krystina1987 · Dec 30, 2007, 05:51 PM

How long after having a baby can I have sex? How long do I have to wait?

Wondergirl · Dec 30, 2007, 05:54 PM

Most doctors say 6-8 weeks, giving time for your body and especially your cervix to heal.

Didn't your doctor or midwife mention this?

Krystina1987 · Dec 30, 2007, 05:55 PM

He hasn't said anything about it yet. I see him tomorrow. He just told me no sex he didn't say how long

Wondergirl · Dec 30, 2007, 05:56 PM

You could have it sooner, I suppose, but will be in danger of screwing up your insides. I'd wait the full time. After all, your body went through big changes for nine months.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 30, 2007, 05:56 PM

This is very important, there are many medical reasons for waiting, They were addressed on another thread in the last couple of days by J9 our resident medical expert.

But follow your doctors advice, it is important

J_9 · Dec 30, 2007, 07:03 PM

6 Weeks is the preferred time to wait for sex after having a baby as it takes this long for your cervix to return to the pre-pregnancy state.

While the cervix is open (during the 6 weeks after delivery) you can uterine contract infections of the uterus that is introduced by the penis. The uterus is a sterile environment and must remain sterile. The penis is not sterile, thus the risk of intrauterine infections.

Also, the cervix is in a fragile state after the delivery of a baby, and, as I stated above, it takes about 6 weeks to return to pre-pregnancy state. Prior to this 6 weeks, the thrusting of the penis can damage the fragile cervix, thus causing possible complications with future pregnancies.

Choux · Dec 30, 2007, 09:42 PM

I never had children, just so you know... but if I were you, I would have the obgyne give me a full pelvic and ask her to expand her fingers to see if anything hurt. The last thing I would want to happen is to start having intercourse and then have pain. That would be hard to forget.

There is lots of sex stuff to do without having intercourse.

simoneaugie · Dec 30, 2007, 09:53 PM

There are so many other fun sexual activities you can do, it makes sense to wait. He can wait. Six weeks is a pretty short time compared to your whole life. I don't think he should boil his things to sterilize them, only nipples should be sterilized by boiling.

J_9 · Dec 30, 2007, 10:07 PM

Originally Posted by Choux

I never had children, just so you know....but if I were you, I would have the obgyne give me a full pelvic and ask her to expand her fingers to see if anything hurt.

WHAT!! :eek: :eek: :eek:

Never ever have your OB do this. It can be very damaging to the cervix making carrying a fetus to term very hard, if not impossible, in the future.

Choux · Dec 31, 2007, 12:09 PM

I think that you just have a bad attitude toward me.

I was referring to t***vaginal opening***, and, AS I SAID, that is what *I* would do because I wouldn't want any pain associated with intercourse with my husband.

Try to cool off; we could be friends, you know. :)

OnYxHaWk · Jan 7, 2008, 02:28 PM

Originally Posted by Krystina1987

How long after having a baby can i have sex? how long do i have to wait?

Doctors typically says 6 weeks after your delivery, but this time-line is based on a number of factors. Women who have a c-section typically require more recovery time than those who have a vaginal delivery.

The 6-week timeline allows time for the cervix to close, postpartum bleeding to stop, and any tears or repaired episiotomies to heal. In reality, most lacerations (tears or episiotomy) take about 2 - 3 weeks to heal and the cervis takes about 2 - 3 weeks to close, but the extra time is built in to be 'safe'.

Mood: Not all women are ready before 6 weeks and some aren't ready weeks to months later.. takes the pressure off because the doctor ordered it.

The most important thing is that red bleeding has stopped and there is no associated pain. And more important still.. you are ready. Of note: if you are bottle-feeding or not breast-feeding fulltime, you can be fertile as little as 2-weeks after your delivery, so use some protection if you are not ready to get pregnant again.

Hope this helps.

2personal · Jan 8, 2008, 12:43 PM

Apart from all the medical reasons not to have sex, trust me you and your partner will probably be to tired to do anything. Are you looking forward to being a mum, and do you have any names ?

Krystina1987 · Jan 10, 2008, 06:29 PM

I think I made a mistake by having sex only after 4 weeks prior to just having a baby... could anything now be wrong?.

statictable · Jan 10, 2008, 08:27 PM

Originally Posted by simoneaugie

There are so many other fun sexual activities you can do, it makes sense to wait. He can wait. Six weeks is a pretty short time compared to your whole life. I don't think he should boil his things to sterilize them, only nipples should be sterilized by boiling.

As in 212 f? I say prepare to feel some pain my dear.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 10, 2008, 08:58 PM

Originally Posted by Krystina1987

I think I made a mistake by having sex only after 4 weeks prior to just having a baby....could anything now be wrong? ....

Don't again for a while and have your doctor check you on the next visit.

lovelymrsm · Mar 7, 2008, 04:32 PM

Okay, this is just me-and I'm not a medical expert or anything-but Id' say as soon as you're comfortable you should be just fine. After we had our first we waited EXACTLY a month for my stitches to dissolve (on doc's orders). This time around I didn't have a rip/tear or stitches or anything and we had sex 20 days after our daughter was born. Both times everything went just fine-we both had fun and everything was medically okay.

If you aren't in pain, then you're probably all good. If you are in pain-or you want to have sex but don't feel comfortable about the medical side of it-go in and see your doc and have them check you out. They'll push up your post partum appointment if you ask them to and that way you can have the official "okay" to go for it.

Good luck