[packer2007]

I have been sort of seeing this guy for 7-8 weeks. He calls 1-2 times per day 5 times per week while he's at work and not. Has only seen me 4 times though(he said work is #1 and he is busy,I work every weekend) We get along great, talk easily, have a lot incommon(both divorced and 48,him a cop, me nurse) But all of a sudden he stopped calling as of the 19th. I have called him on the 21st to see how he is and called on the am on the 24th to wish him a Merry Christmas.(not like him not to call me back either,always called me back) He said he would be busy through the holidays and his kids and grankids in town, but it seems he always found a way to call or tried to stop by(on his way home or into work) I don't get it why would he do this? I really like him and told him on the phone that if he is no longer interested to please let me know. Is that too much to ask of him? Just a call!! I have been very patient with him being busy andfamily in town and not able to see me, so what would be the problem? I always said to him I understand you have no time, called when he called me and things seem to be going great. Should I try to call again in a few days or wait? I feel the need to know what's up.(he is everything that I was looking for in a man and I just wanted to get to know him more-never said that to him-but thought it, he is into group sex and swinging, I am not but I was thinking maybe to, maybe it would be fun) I just don't know what I did wrong, never ask for much of his time, didn't call all the time, did everything I thought right, so why not hear from him? Is it the holidays? What did I do wrong to him?? Should I call,emailwhat?? I need your help!!

[helenita10]

Hi there, first of all I would suggest you buy the book 'Mars and Venus on a Date' by John Grey. It is really helpful when dilemas such as this come up! I am trying to sort out a difficult three year relationship and this book has helped me lots!
In my opinion, don't call him. If he is interested, he will call you. Men are like that! Sounds like he is just busy at the moment. If you give him some space you will show him you are strong and not desperate for him, men can get cocky very fast in my experience! (sorry guys! )
And finally- this 'swinging' business sounds a bit dodgy to me, the best relationships are built on trust, how can you trust someone who is into that? You deserve a guy who is all for you!
Hope this helps, Hugs, helenita

[George_1950]

I wouldn't call again; twice, unanswered, is enough. Why is he so busy? Married? Girlfriend(s)? You need to know that.