[DanieLovesPaul]

Okay the name is Danielle. Im 21 years old and I have been dating a man named Paul for 6 months now. He is the love of my life. He is older than I am and he does have a past. He did 14 month in prison for a dui. He maxed out the time in order to not do probation. He has an ex wife and two children who he provides for to the best of his ability. He does not take advantage. He does not hurt me. He is not a bad person, he just got cought up in a poor decision. He treats me so good and cares about me. We talk about marriage in a serious matter ad about having a family. My problem is this: My boyfriend is an alcoholic- which I am dealing with him. He sees he has a bad drinking pattern and has pointed it out to me before I noticed it myself. We are working on this together. But right now while we save up for a place he is at his parents ( And don't worry he owned his own home up North He is not a dead beat or a loser.) Well his father has decided to kick him out, and with what I can honestly say is for no logical reason. He is a scape goat and that's easy to see with what happens. So no this guy is down on his luck and I love him, but are we bad for each other. We are all each other has, and are we this catalyst towards one another who are harming more then helping? Should I try and let him go so he will just go home and be safe. As of right now he is stranded outside. My parents love him and offered for him to stay but he feels he should be offering me a place. Taking care of me. I want him to be safe. He says Im all he has. And I know he loves me as much as I love him, but should I let him go. Should I tell him goodbye even though he doesn't want to hear it? Or should I stand by him and continue to be his "rock of gibralter" as he referred to me earlier, and stick it out with him till we meet our goals. This situation is upsetting because I want him to be safe and warm, but I am not being put into a perdicument I am uncomfartable with. I want to know what my actions should be for HIS best intentions. HIS, I am in love with him and want to do what best for him.

[boady]

Don't break up with him, you will end up hurting not just him but also yourself, its always good to have someone to share everything with, our problems, worries, fears.. but you got to stick it out together... I've had a pretty rough time with my life atm but with my boyfriend we've stuck through it together. I've had problems with being sad all the time, my mum had cancer and he had problems to.. I have to admit I've thought about breaking it off to protect him from further harm, but he loves me so much he couldn't live without me. No joke. And I couldn't live without him. I would have no where near enough strength to survive without him. I need him too much. And its always helped to share every problem . You would be so hurt and he would be to if you broke it off. Stick through it together!

[oneguyinohio]

I don't know enough about the situation to say one way or the other as far as if you should end things or not. If he makes you happy, and if he is working on solving his problems, then those are two positives. I don't understand how he you are bad for each other if you are trying to help each other be your best, and if that is what you both are seeking.

As far as him offering you a place, if he feels that is what he wants, then tell him to accept the help from your family, if that is what you want, until he gets to a place where he is able to offer that to you.

Is there more details that I am missing?