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    alessia Posts: 6, Reputation: 1
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    Dec 15, 2007, 10:43 PM
    Help someone please help me
    This is mom speacking I don't know haw to get over it it was a very important relkationship for 7 years he was my love we went tru so much together then one day he cheats on me and decide to tro everythink away ia year has passed I a have found someone who loves me very much but after what happened I don't give myself completely to a man so you can say he loves me more then I do I keep thinkink about him and it is such a shock to me that I can seem to get over it I need help and advice haw to make this feeling go away or fix it for the better
    Please help me
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    Dec 15, 2007, 11:56 PM
    I hear you. You're still thinking about the guy who cheated on you and threw your relationship away. But the new guy, who loves you very much, is not getting a fair chance because you keep thinking about the other one.

    The new guy loves you. The other guy acted like a turd. Which would you prefer? Do you want to be with the one who loves you (but doesn't express it "right)? Or, do you want the man you went through so much with, who threw it all away? He's gone anyway, right?

    Maybe you are still searching. Looking for a man with the qualities of both these guys. Give yourself a break. If you wait awhile, without a guy around, it might become clearer what you should do.
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    Dec 16, 2007, 06:22 AM
    As we grow older, it is harder and harder to be too open at first in any relationship, So don't "completely" give yourself until you are ready.
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    Dec 16, 2007, 06:54 AM
    Without a guy around... perfect answer! Becoming used to Love, we think we just can't live without "their" love, but it wasn't love for anyone other than himself that led him to his unfaithful act. Take the time to take your time. After all, though it seems an eternity, being alone is better than pretending to be loved for loves' sake. I also like the other answer, that you will give yourself to another when you are ready. You "think" one way, but your heart thinks another way and will not yield to your thoughts. If you act based on what you think, what you feel will betray you and ultimately sabotage any relationship.
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    Dec 16, 2007, 11:33 AM
    this is mom speacking
    Why do I think a teenager is playing games?https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...go-163105.html
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