[Tigercelt]

Ok, this is kind of complicated... Me and my girl have been together for 15months!! She chased me in the beginning and asked me out. We're both competitive Dancers competing for different schools, I've ranked quite high in international sections and my girlfriend quite high nationally... We've shared so much, including oversea's travel, future plans - she's always told me I'm perfect for her! Nothing said no about this girl!! At our Nationals in October I went out and got drunk after my section, came back to the hotel quite sick, hence keeping her awake before her section the next day. ((Note) Her father was an alcoholic!). We talked about it the next day or two and it all seemed OK. Since then she's had her dancing friends/teachers/mother 'warning her of me'... Things came quite tense and we saw each other a fraction of what we used to... We both wanted to make it work... She's always said said she loves me and wants us to work. The dancing community is quite close so this became VERY public!! Monday I got the dreaded text 'I need to talk to you'... She said 'she can't do this anymore' and 'she doesn't feel the same'... Definitely my actions caused the initial problems (it was our 1st issue though), friends and family in her ear didn't help, but there's no way that one thing alone could've driven her away...
The night she broke it off before I'd left I was 'begging' her to give it one more go... Then I acknowledged she wanted it to be over and told her I'd set her free, she hugged me and kissed me (with tongue) goodbye... (Still wants to be friends!) One final thing which complicates matters further, I've now retired competing and I'm starting my own School in late January, she and her young sister were always going to come so I could train her and eventually was going to help me teach, even through our problems she's always said she still wants to come!
There's just something not right, only a week ago she was going through my wardrobe throwing out old clothes and planning to go shopping with me for new clothes, we'd planned a weekend away to 'talk' things through... I don't know what to do to try and save this!
Please help me, Why is love so hard!!

[Homegirl 50]

Well it seems as though she is looking out for herself, her best interest. Maybe because of her father being an alcoholic, your drinking binge bothered her. Maybe she figures you are just not who she wants in her life. Maybe she found another school to teach at.
The best thing for you to do is move on with your life.
Love is hard, so is life, but you live and learn and you love and learn.

[Homegirl 50]

Well she goes back and forth for some reason. Maybe she does not know what she wants. But if you guys are see-sawing back and forth, that should tell you things aren't working. Maybe her friends and her mother has more influence over her, if that is the case, it's not going to work.
Disagree if you want, but I still say "move on"

[talaniman]

Sorry love and life, is what it is. She has a lot of baggage, and you can't help her carry it. Its over, and as Homegirls has accurately said, move on.