[CBasie2856]

Some of the times we have together

I have a problem about my family relationship with my mom, and I would like to know what is "right" in each of these problems:

This Thanksgiving, my whole family got together at a party at my uncles house.
At the table and at a bunch of recliners, my family members sat. There were some "extra" chairs for anyone who needed a seat. I was peacefully sitting in one of the recliners first. My mom came up to me and said "Get out of the chair! Move! I want to sit there! My mom
Actually forced me to move by actually sitting on me.

Another thing my mom does all the time is that she turns off my television program when I am watching a particular show. I explain to her that she bought some other tv's to watch and she could go watch her program on another TV. I also tell her that my station is only available on that particular tv(stations 100 and on) and her station is available on the TV I'm watching and the other tv's she bought. I am 16 years old and I would like to know who is right and who is wrong.

[simoneaugie]

You mom is displaying passive-aggressive behavior. I suspect that she is frustrated with something you (or someone else) is doing/not doing and communicating with you about it in a roundabout way. The best thing to do about the TV is to have a discussion with her about it while neither of you is wanting to watch. Work out a plan. Find out why she wants to watch her TV program on a particular set.

Are you taking initiative to help out around the house? Without her asking? That kind of behavior brings me, a mom, right out of a grumpy mood and into a talking mood.

[Kingofkings]

Buddy welcome to having a controlling mother. She likes that she has the power over you. That's why she uses it. You're best bet is just to go with it until you can make it on your own. You only have a few years left. Fighting with her and trying to gain a "power edge" will just make things worse. I have a mother just like that, in time she will relize that she is losing her relationship with her son and try to make herself better. My mother and I fought all the time when I was a teenager, but when I grew to relize that I don't know everything and sometimes listening to someone else is a good idea and convayed that message to my mother things got a lot better. Be willing to listen as well as speak. It's not about who is right or wrong, she pays the bills she does what she wants with 'em. That's why she can use them as power over you.

[simoneaugie]

Yeah, your mother is controlling... Why? She is not some constant, unaffected by your actions. When kids sit around all day, doing very little, for years, a mom gets tired of being a good person and treating them fairly. Behave as you would like her to. Treat her with respect and compassion. It's not all about you!