[nicolieolie5990]

Could myboyfriend be using me and not even know it?
Exps could be:
1)he sometimes gets mad about how we spend money, but won't tell me how much money he's got in the bank
2)gets mad if something does not go his way, he feels insecure when we are around other attractive males but does not admit he is insecure
3)uses my car while I'm at work and runs all the gas out, is late picking me up from work and does not appoligize
4)does not have a job, but has had one in the past and is trying to find one
5)drinks all the time maybe 2 days out of the week he does not, I ask him to quit but he never does
6)tells me he loves me and that he wants to have a family with me ?
7)tells me I'm the one with the problem and all I do is complain, but he was so unhappy in his past with his other girlfriend when she complained about him for the same reasons. Shouldn't he get the hint?
8)he thinks its OK to stay out all night, as long as he tells me he did not do know wrong and expects me to believe his word

We have been together for a little over a year now and we lived together, is it possible that I wouldn't of seen it by now ? Is he just really crazy blaming it on me by not seeing these things himself?

[FallenKnight]

It does seem like he's using you, by not having a job, drinking even after your request for him not to, and how he uses your car (not having his own) then wasting all your gas, and not filling it up himself.

If I were you I wouldn't stay wth him, all in all he sounds like a bad boyfriend, who doesn't think of you and just uses you

[J_9]

He is using you and your money. Plain and simple. He does not have to work, doesn't have a car, uses your money for his alcohol. Heck yeah he's using you. He talks about marriage, well this will be what the rest of your life will be like should you marry him. Is this what you want out of life?

[J_9]

Whoa, wait a minute! I just realized that you are the gal wanting to get pregnant!! You want to raise a child in this atmosphere? What are you crazy?!

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/pregna...tml#post739096

How are you going to afford a child? How are you going to raise a child? You are already dealing with a child (your boyfriend) can you raise two children?

Is an alcoholic a good role model as a father?

He gets mad at you about how you spend money? It's your money to spend, not his. I bet he'd be the type to get mad if you bought a box of pampers for the baby if he doesn't have his alcohol.

You really need to rethink this lifelong decision with this apparent loser.

[N0help4u]

He may not even realize it but he is using you. If it were one or two things then it could just be selfishness on his part but he has all the classic symptoms of a 'user'. He may well love you in his own messed up way but that is an unhealthy love that will do N0THING BUT drag you down and leave you exhausted. What does he do for you? Even if you say nothing but it doesn't bother you that he doesn't you need to take your needs and feelings into consideration eventually you WILL want more from him and he is not going to change to be the person you need him to be. He will never see it and only complain that you are the problem.
The last thing you want is to start a family with this guy. Get while the getting is good and find something positive for your life. It only spirals downhill and gets progressively harder to leave!

Been there done that!