[sukyr]

I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months and have noticed that he needs help. He goes through phases of being extremely happy and being on high to being the opposite. He told me that his father suffers from manic depression and that it runs in the family however recently he told me for no reasoning what so ever he wanted nothing to do with me. He has gone around telling my friends lies about me. I have looked up bipoal on the interenet and all the symphoms match. Massive debts not been able to hold down a stable job, on highs and lows with emtions lying, threats of harming hiimself. Now I feel really bad and want to help him. The only thing is he has threatened if I contact him he will call the police. I know that this is what he has through things he has said to me in the past and his actions and I really need to support him but what do I do. Do I approach him and confront him??

[KBC]

NO, Do not approach and confront.

I, too, am bipolar, did this same thing with a past girlfriend and believe me, when I made that decision it was final.

I am sorry you had to go through this, even I know it isn't fair(just ask my ex wife of 10 years),something just snaps in a manic mind and nothing is going to change that idea.

This is just my opinion,and based on my life experiences, others might have a different approach for you, but I am quite sure that you should leave him alone, If he wants to return to you, he will on his terms.(even then, as I have done, it ended up break-up, make-up till she decided to let go)

I am sorry to see this happen to anyone, being the persecutor in any situation isn't comforting for me, it just happens, you being the persecuted are at a loss as to how to deal with it, rational minded people don't always understand irrational thinking.

It has been 2-3 years since I broke the relationship off (smiler to yours) and we see each other weekly,(were both in a 12 step program) she is still uncomfortable in my presence, but tolerates it(such a charmer I am)

My suggestion is, sadly, move on, you are asking for a path of difficult decisions and heartbreak again and again, till you come to a final moment of clarity.

Wishing I could be of more cheerful help.

Sincerely,

Ken