[Hydraulic001]

Submited a question sometime ago about my g/f deciding to move away and not grant me access or custody to the baby we had planned together. She had decided to take all of the things we had bought and then claim child support from me, despite my full intention of supporting our family.
I am in need of some advice now, having spent several months consulting with a solicitor over legal paternal rights, it seems I have very limited options. If my G/F so wishes to raise our child alone, its her right to do so, if I want part custody of our child I have to go through a court procedure? Since I can't and certainly won't try and prove the baby is'nt mine ( I know full well it is so I am not going to try and lie my way out of it! ) I am fully obligated to pay child support, despite my being allowed acess or not!?
Constant phoning and going to her new house is deemed as harassment and will be treat legaly as such.
My g/f must agree to court action otherwise it becomes a lengthy, expensive procedure to force a custody/ access procedure.
Visiting rights are not an option since she has to agree to them or it becomes the harassment problem.
On top of this I am being tortured by child support for full details of the situation so they can "assess" payment.
This has been a very painfull, drawn out tiresome process to which I have gained no ground and have discovered that I have almost no legal rights.
I have never had the intention of not supporting our baby and despite all of my best interests and hard work it appears that my opinion and good intention scount for nothing as it is my g/f who is clearly going to benefit from this now out of control situation.

Please advise?

[ScottGem]

You are wrong. You do have legal rights its just that it may be expensive to enforce them. For her to get child support she needs to take you to court (unless she is claiming public assistance). You need to counter sue for custody and visitation. If what you say is true, then the court should grant you at least joint custody with some visitation.

But you will need to engage an attorney to help you deal with the court. So you DO have rights, it just depends on how badly you want to enforce them.

[macksmom]

Nothing really to add... just reinforcing to you what Scott said.

You have rights, you just need to exercise them. You WILL be given visitation, weather she "agrees" with it or not... if it's court ordered.