[hossbonnam]

Hi All,
Over the weekend me and my my kids got sick.
My daughter (age 6) was the worst, so weak she could not lift her arms.
She had thrown up 8 times and was incoherant at times.
My nurse girlfriend was taking car of us all.

I called My ex-wife (Tracey) to tell her that I think it would be best not
to transport her the 2 hour trip back. All i got was screamed at,
called a MF, and told that I would be in contempt if I did not
bring her kids at the designated time.

She was mad becasuse she had work the next day and
did not want to call off to come get them on Monday.
I mean i was willing to call off for my daughters well being.

Being weak and sick myself, I loaded the children
and took them back to the meeting point.
When I arrived my daughters eyes were
rolling in the back of here precious
little head and I felt so sad for her.
Then she threw up again all over her clothes,
because she was stuck in a car seat.
Now she was going to have to remain wet
for 1 hour of the rest of the trip.
Tracey was there at that point to see her
throw up and did not even say that she
was sorry for making her suffer the trip.

I would have never pulled my sick daughter from her bed,
but the thought of losing my visitations forced me too.


Ive dealt with the police, the law and the courts on drop off and pick ups before.
So i could just about guess that I would be in the wrong for having a penis.
Me and Tracey have been getting along great up until this point.
My question is this:

"What steps do I take to prevent the courts from
preventing me to make imortant health
realated decisions for my children?"



Im at that point where I want to just
throw in the towell on
trying to be an effective co-parent.
It seems that I get screwed in every
area for having a penis.

- I dont get the Custody
- I have to pay 100% of the child support
- I dont get the tax exemptions (She got a piss ant job after the divorce) so
- I dont get a tax break whatsoever
- I can't get welfare
- They were allowed to be move 2 hours away
- I cannot see them on weekdays anymore.
- I have to pay all the medical bill
- I have to pay all the dental bills
- Im told I will have to pay for there college tuitions as well.
(my parents didnt pay for my college and I made it through)
- I can't afford the enjoy a real gettaway vaction with the kids (she gets that luxury)
- I live in a dump now
- she got married to someone who has money - No one wants my broke
- i have to live under the constant threat of jailtime
- I can't quit my job no matter how bad I want too,
i could if i was married without going to jail for it. (my employer knows it too)
- I cannot afford a new car - my job depends on piece o crap this car
lasting until the child support order stops or again i lose my job and face jail.
- I would want a safer car to transport the children in like the one my exwife
seems to be able to afford every 2 years.


Its like they're not my kids anymore. Im closer to my neices and nephews as time goes by.


I really do want to give up, but then that would make
me a horrible person in the eyes of those who do NOT have to walk in my shoes.
Because no matter how I try, its never going to be enough.

[cjonline]

I hate to say it but its likely no matter how hard you try and no matter what you do it will never be good enough for your ex.

Next time you all get sick like that go to the Dr's. I know you said your GF is nurse but do and have a Doctors note that states you all shouldn't be in the car, or that you shouldn't be driving 4 hours. That way she can come and get the ids herself or you can drive them all the way once you are well enough. No Judge would blame you for keeping them if you had a doctors note stating that you were ill and couldn't drive that all that way, as long as you didn't forbid her from coming all the way to get them if she wanted.

However she has the right to take you back to court over it no matter what. She could take you back to court for getting the kids sick, its unlikely and she would look bad but she can.