[SynaD]

I am 30 and my husband is 31 we have been married for almost 2 years From the first time we made love it was the best I ever had in all ways possible. When I got pregnant I was real sick so our sex life got short and simple. Now the baby is 4 months and perfect I might ad but our sex life has never recovered now there is no forplay at least for me it is just intercourse except for the oral sex I give him and most of the time he blows and I am met unsaisfided and tell him how sexy he is to me how bad I want him to touch me which he never does and acts like it is a horrible job for him and I end up crying myself to sleep next to him snoring please tell me how to get my baby back I need tips to keep him attracted to me or to turn him on

[Synnen]

No... you need to TALK to him, and let him know how the way things stand right now makes you feel.

Either he's just dumb, and doesn't realize that he's hurting you (and therefore will work to change!), or he's a jerk that won't change and you'll be better off kicking him to the curb.

However--"tips to keep him attracted" (if he loves you, he's attracted, period) or ways to "turn him on" (again, if he loves you, just you being YOU will turn him on) isn't going to work. That's a "desperation bandaid" and all it will do is give him power over you.

TALK TO HIM. Seriously--you can't work on fixing things if he doesn't even know there's a problem.

[sixftbrit]

Talking is key, well put.