[tcatfighter]

Hi guy's,

I've been in love with one of the girls from my work for about 6 months and I did nothing about it and then she started to talk to me and then it started as innocent flirting between us then I gave her my number about 3 months ago and that night she called me and has done so every night since for the past 3 months!
Now I have told her that I have strong feelings for her and have had them for a long time and she told me that she was crazy about me when were at work but outside of work she struggles a bit and I ask her why but she won't give me an answer, and then we still continue to go out without a problem?
I don't push the subject but we go out to the movies, go out for dinner and lunch every chance we get and she still calls everyday and everything is fine!
Then the next day everything will be fine, she will sit on my lap and kisses me as usual then recently at our afternoon break time she tells me that she wants to be single but still have me to talk to everyday and fool around with but she would like to sleep with other people and the idea of that makes me so sad thinking that this would hopefully turn into a relationship?
Now I don't know what to do, she doesn't want a relationship at the moment but still wants the comfort of someone there, she wants to hook up with other people and I don't, I love spending time with her at work and out of work and even when I'm not with her she is all I think about and she admitted that too!
Please any help would be greatly appreciated!

[friend4u178]

She has stated her intentions quite clearly. She knows you will be there for her so she treats you like a doormat. Move on from her and stop wasting your time on someone who doesn't want to be with you. You might then find if she knows she can't have you she might want you. You will only end up getting more hurt later on.

[N0help4u]

Friend4u is absolutely right. She feels *comfortable* with you nothing more nothing less!
She wants to dictate to you that she wants her cake and eat it too.
Why settle for that? You deserve better than a flighty shallow girl.
Tell her she needs to grow up, peoples feelings aren't as simple as letting others (like her) have their cake and eat it too when it involves their emotions.

[Applejacks83irv]

Dude she want to be a HO, and a girl like that is going to have a kid with someone she had sex with? And come to you laterz and plant that kid on you? You have to think about the long run? I say find you another girl

[Sdjosh]

You have to look out for yourself... respect yourself. If she wants to go date other people then let her go. If you try to hold onto her while she is in this phase in life... you will get hurt very badly.

Just tell her straight up that you can not... and will not stick around to be her toy on the side while she sows her oats. If she wants a committed relationship then that's fine. Anything other than that is putting yourself in a position to be absolutely miserable.

[peggyhill]

I agree with all these posts on here. Don't settle for less than you want. If she doesn't want to be serious, tell her that it's over between you two. Tell her that you want to see someone who wants a committed relationship, and that she obviously isn't the right person for that. It's too bad, sounds like you're a nice person. Then, get out there and meet some new people! Ask a friend to set you up with someone, or just hang out with some friends. Don't waste anymore time or thought on her. Good luck!

[s_cianci]

Well, she's been upfront with you about who she is and where she's coming from, so now you've got to make a decision. If you want to keep on seeing her, knowing it won't be exclusive, then that's fine. If, however, that's unsatisfactory to you then you've got to cut loose and tell her why.

[Applejacks83irv]

Or you can play the game homey! And keep her around for your needs? And then laterz dump her? Cause it all old and she no use to you? Hell? Girls do it to guys everyday? Be a player not a ho