[HopelessLover]

Well first off, its my first post, so be gentle. Second, I just lost my virginity this past weekend, on my wedding night, as I have devoted my life to my childhood sweetie of 10 years, 2 of them dating.

So far, I think we have done extremely well, though I have always thought of myself as the guy that would have an easy time giving a woman an orgasm. However, I am obviously inexperienced as we only just lost our virginity.

Stamina isn't a huge concern, as I can last for a couple hours so far by pacing myself and breathing. I used to masterbate, but stopped shortly before getting married as I would rather devote my penis to other more pleasurable pursuits, my wife.

She tried masterbating when she was younger, but never got far as people always walked in or interrupted her in her room. Don't know why she didn't try in the washroom, but that was her preference obviously.

She's let me finger her, and she still allows this, so I usually do this for a good 30 minutes once she is wet from kissing, cuddling, sucking/kissing of her breasts. When I finger her, I feel some spongyness on the top, I thought was her g-spot, but she said she didn't feel anything. Just bast that is a little bump about the size of a pea in diameter which she says REALLY feels good, but gets sore after continuse stimulation. (What am I rubbing here? Is it her g-spot?). She is adament in that she dislikes the thought of oral. I don't want it myself personally, but the thought of pleasuring her this way turns me on.

We only have sex in the missionary position, either with her legs open for penetration or closed to stimulate her , so we usually swap between the two. She's tried to be on top, but she gets very giggly and then doesn't do anything because she feel's silly. I'm not going to pressure her, but I tell her just to try moving a round to however it feels best for her.

Everything I do is for her pleasure, not my own. This isn't to say I don't enjoy myself though.

We usually have sex on a bed, obviously. I light a candle so its not dark, but not light, and so there is a pleasant aroma in the room, kind of romantic like.

The othernight she said her toes were starting to curl and she felt tigly. Was this the beginning of an orgasm? What do I do at that point if it is? Am I on the right path to giving her an orgasm?

I only want to please her. Please, help me put a happy scrunched look on her face so I don't feel so guilty for coming before her even though she says its OK!

[excon]

Hello lover:


Dude. You can't get good at lovemaking in a couple days. I've been practicing for 30 years, and I still haven't got it down. You ARE on the right track. You're head is in the right place. Just keep doing what you're doing. She'll come around.

excon

[ballengerb1]

"The othernight she said her toes were starting to curl and she felt tigly. Was this the beginning of an orgasm? What do I do at that point if it is? Am I on the right path to giving her an orgasm?" Yes , yes, yes just keep doing what you were doing , maybe even a bit faster. Love is a skill, a art form, you name it. It will get better the more you practice. That's why I married a teac her, trhey make you practice and practice until you get it right. Good luck pal.

[Xrayman]

Okay, the fact that you are/were virgins addds up! However you are doing well! You described her g-spot well-I think you may have been stimulating her clitoris although I don't know whether you were "further in than the g-spot" or further out towards the top of the vulva at meeting of the labia minors (small lips)-then this is the clitoris. Now if she said it felt really good then id say that you were "on the button"-clitoris! Well done. This will get sore after constant rubbing (when not wet).

Only missionary-will become VERY BORING! But good luck to you both if it doesn't for the both of you. For virgins-keep up the good "work/play"!

Oh, Curling toes and tingly-you are on the right track-as above!

[HopelessLover]

I don't think it's her clitoris or either of her lips, as I am rubbing my fingers inside of her, past her lips. Once I'm in past her lips, that's when I feel the spongy thing, which she says she doesn't feel, and just a little past that is the little bump which she REALLY feels.

We started having sex on the futon the other night. After she was really wet and she had rubbed me good, I knelt on the floor and brought her to the edge of the futon. We had sex like that for a few minutes, she said it felt better then missionary, but her neck got sore. We tried it on the bed right after, but my bed is to tall when I'm kneeling, and I'm not a short guy by any means.

Any missionary like positions that I could try once I get her to this point from missionary? She hates the thought of doggy, so it has to be something intimate still.

[Wondergirl]

Do it spoon-style, with her back nestled up against your front. Her being on top is good too and then she can control the action. The first is more "loving" and the second can get wild and exciting. In both of those positions, you will be able to fondle all parts of her that matter.