[QBaileys]

I don't know what to think.

The last time we talked, he suddenly told me he really need some time alone. The day before, we just had a nice night out. Fact is, he's always really busy at work, and he hardly have anytime for me. I'm okay with that, except that at last time on the phone, he suddenly said he couldn't handle work and relationship at the same time. He felt like we're not dating, and that he doesn't want me to wait for him, because he doesn't know how long it will take for him to clear up his hectic work schedule.

So I asked if he really liked me. I was just too shocked and upset I blanked up and just wanted to know this. He said he does, But that he just can't handle it and that he wishes me to give him some space and time. I asked if we were breaking up, he said he doesn't want to go on with the conversation, but we never talked after either. I sms him the next morning and asked him to call. He said he really don't know what to say and that he need some time (through sms).

I realized there's no point pushing him, so I sms him and said that I don't know what to think either, but I know how important it is for him to have time to calm himself down, that we can talk after he's ready. Ending "with love, name"... except... we still haven't talked since... it's about a week already.

I'm beginning to think things, like if he's just not going to talk to me ever. I am really tempted to call him, but I keep telling myself that it would mean I haven't given him time to begin with. Because while I'm free at work to think of things like this, he's so busy he.. I don't know what and if he thinks about us at all... I like to think he does.

I had emailed him a really long email the last night we chatted, and I told him everything I felt and think for him... in a way, I feel like I don't know what else I can do, except to be truly open with what I feel inside and honest, and now, it's like I have no other option than to give him the space he said he needs... (I'm scared of pushing him and putting so much stress on him that he would break up right there and then... and I'm scared that he lied about liking me and that if I asked too much, he would in fact tell me he doesn't want me because he never felt for me, and that he said he didn't feel like dating, because he didn't feel me... I'm scared.. I'm thinking a lot)... so now I'm giving him time, but how much space and time and for how long? I don't know either. I wish to ask him, but that's giving him a deadline, and it's a sort of stress too... I try to think that he really means wanting space and time.

I feel bad, but I don't know what to do either. What is he thinking? I wish someone can tell me. Why does a guy do that? Is he over me and just using 'time and work and space' as a way to leave me? Or for a man, "time and space" really mean "time and space"... I know woman thinks a lot and symbolizes a lot, do men do this? Is he doing it?

[necrolichmon]

Look he may be trying to get his time organized to be with you and get his work done. He could also be trying to get good money for things for you and money to go out dating with for the food and presents for you.

[QBaileys]

That sounds nice, although I don't think that is the reason.

Today, I... well, I called him, and messaged him.

He replied... and he said that he's very torned at work and thanked me for asking. He added, that he couldn't take care of me, and I should look after myself.

I replied to see if he wanted to come out for a chat, and he didn't reply still.

I just don't see what is going on... everything was going well. I am wondering if I did anything to spark this request for separation. And I wonder if he really means well on wanting to do work, and not stop me from looking for my own relationship because he's unavailable, or if he's just going for someone else... or... I'm thinking a lot.