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Kayla_Baby · Oct 27, 2007, 11:43 AM

Okaay,
This sounds awkward and like.. weird? But I suck at masturbating. I'm not a virgin, and I've been masturbated by guys, but it never feels as good when I do it? I try to do it the same way, but it just sucks.. the only thing that can ever do anything for me is clitoral stimulation, but it still isn't as good as when a guy is fingering me
Any suggestions?
Sorry its such a werid topic:confused:

hollylovesbrandon · Oct 27, 2007, 06:31 PM

Clitoral stimulation is masturbation... if it's getting you off then it serves the same purpose doesn't it? I can't get myself off by fingering me or masturbating... I can only do clitoral stimulation too... trust me, there's not a big difference.

CaptainRich · Oct 27, 2007, 07:24 PM

Originally Posted by Kayla_Baby

okaay,
this sounds awkward and like.. weird? but i suck at masturbating. im not a virgin, and ive been masturbated by guys, but it never feels as good when i do it? i try to do it the same way, but it just sucks.. the only thing that can ever do anything for me is clitoral stimulation, but it still isnt as good as when a guy is fingering me
any suggestions?
sorry its such a werid topic:confused:

Educate your current partner or you will have to seek one more appropriate.
Patience is key to relaxing and enjoying intimate times. Let your partner know where they're doing it right and where they're doing it wrong. If you don't, you'l be better off with self-serve. And that would be too bad.

Smiley5 · Oct 30, 2007, 03:10 PM

If you are finding difficulty in pleasing yourself, think about what excites you. Try a preamble of something you find sexy and exciting before you masturbate. Maybe do an internet search on something sexual that excites you but maybe you aren't ready to try in real life. Something that makes you think, feel, and breathe sex. Maybe if you try waiting a bit, denying yourself pleasure, and then see if you are better able to excite yourself.

Sally-Diane · Oct 30, 2007, 03:21 PM

I have the SAME problem I no this sounds weird to but try holding you breath a little it makes it a bit better!

bryan25227 · Oct 31, 2007, 02:10 AM

Originally Posted by CaptainRich

Educate your current partner or you will have to seek one more appropriate.
Patience is key to relaxing and enjoying intimate times. Let your partner know where they're doing it right and where they're doing it wrong. If you don't, you'l be better off with self-serve. And that would be too bad.

I think you misread her question, its not that her partner is falling short, it's that she feels she is when it comes to self-service.

As for my advice... I'm not quite sure what to say.
1. I'm not a girl
2. From what I know, everyone above me is right, what gets you off is what gets you off, if the clitoris is your niche (sp?) then work with that.
3. Just throwing this one out there, if you really feel the need to give yourself some internal pleasure, try using a toy, or ask your partner how he does it so that you can do it.

I hope some of these suggestions are halfway helpful.

ukbertie · Dec 13, 2007, 04:11 AM

Originally Posted by hollylovesbrandon

clitoral stimulation is masturbation...if it's getting you off then it serves the same purpose doesn't it? I can't get myself off by fingering me or masturbating...i can only do clitoral stimulation too...trust me, there's not a big difference.

Same here I've never need to put fingers in , I like the shower as well

orgless · Dec 13, 2007, 05:12 AM

Your better off than me then as nothing I do or he does feels of anything better than rubbing my tip on my nose!! It's a total waste of time for us

ukbertie · Dec 13, 2007, 05:17 AM

Get him to use his tongue slowly around the tip ,do not put too much pressure and do not lap like a dog get him to slowly and lightly lick

nancy pink · Dec 13, 2007, 06:40 AM

Its good

orgless · Dec 13, 2007, 08:49 AM

Apparently he's tried that not that I would know what he actually does, I can't tell esp when it send me to sleep

Choux · Dec 13, 2007, 11:39 AM

Sexual desire is about passion, being turned onto what drives you mad with desire! I don't detect any passion here, just mechanics. At the core of a woman's identity and feelings of confidence is having a strong sexuality...

A woman has to develop the depth of her sexual response in such a sexually unfriendly culture as America has. Religious indoctrination in childhood is a real passion killer. A mother's negativity or father's discomfort is also.

Developing your sexuality will take time. Remember, passion.