[dragonheart780]

SO I ve known this girl for the past one year now. We became really close friends over the summer and then about 2 months ago, we kind of started going out. She seemed really into me to begin with and so I had the same feelings as well. Then one day I asked her what our relation was and she just said we were casually dating. She got pissed at me for asking her to make it a bit more of a commitment. After a few days she was normal again and I told her I wanted a more serious relationship with her. She told me that she wasn't ready for one yet and needed time to figure things out to which I said OK. I told her she could take all the time she needed. So things were back to normal again after that and we kept seeing each other more and more and I could tell that she was more attracted to me than before. She would ofter bring up the fact that she was indecisive and she was sorry she needed more time and blah blah! I just told her to take her time. Well a few days ago she again brought this up and I told her what I wanted. This time she told me that she wanted to take a step back to see what she wanted and decide. I said fine. So after that she said we couldn't spend the night together and I couldn't kiss her and blah blah. I told her it was fine with me if she needed time to decide. So the next day, I was talking to her and she tells me, that she has a date with another guy. Obviously I got pissed but since we weren't officially together I told her to do what she wanted. She said she didn't know if I had all the qualities she was looking for in a guy and wanted to know me more before she could decide. She said she still cared about me and had feelings for me. I got a little mad at the fact that she was going to see another guy but said I was fine with it.

Now, what exactly is she trying to pull off here and what can I do no to lose her? Should I cut contact from her or what? She says she still wants to talk to me everyday but I don't think I can do just that... what should I do so that she comes back? Thanks!

[s_cianci]

Definitely cut contact with her. She obviously doesn't want a serious commitment right now. Since you do, it's clear that the two of you are not compatible with each other. I'd go out and date other people myself, just like she's doing. Let her realize what she's missing and what she's lost. She may or may not come back around. But you take back the power and keep the ball in your court.