[E20]

I have just recently split with my boyfriend. He has made friends with guys who are younger than him and just recently had started to go out! At first it was fine but then he would end up back home at 7 in the morning and the next day would be spent lying on the sofa!
We then started to have a few arguments as he became different towards me and we then vowed to change it as we both agreed we loved each other too much too let it go!
After a depressing week for myself I wasn't feeling in the best of moods and came home to him saying he no longer wanted this and he wanted us to end!
He said that he want happy and that he didn't want to be unhappy any longer! He said he had been like this for months but the week before he was telling me how happy he was with me and that he loved me more than he ever had! I brought this up an he said the he was lying the whole time!
We then somehow agreed to a break and he text me the following day saying how he was sorry for being horrible and that I deserved so much better, he said that he was going to start treating me like a princess again and that he loved me and missed me loads!
After a weekend of such text messages he then broke up with me on the Tuesday saying he wanted to do what he wanted when he wanted and that he no longer wanted to be unhappy!
I was unbelievably confused and rang a week later to ask what was going on, he continued to be really horrible to me and ignored me! I have now been advised to cut of all communication to him until he realises what he is doing!
Does any one know what is happening because I really don't how can someone openly say that they love you and then cut off just like that! What is going on??

[peggyhill]

It sounds like he is really confused about what he wants right now. It also sounds like he has been going out a lot. Maybe hanging around with the younger guys made him miss his younger carefree days and he translated those feelings into wanting to be single. Whatever the reason was, he has no right to play mind games like that with you. I agree that you should stop calling him, at least for right now. If he calls you wanting another chance, you will have to decide if he is worth keeping or not. It's too bad he can't be honest with you. He was either lying to you about loving you, or he does love you but loves being single more. It sounds as if he has made his decision. Don't contact him for a while and see what happens. You don't want to come off being clingy by calling him a lot. It will just make him think that you will take him back no matter what. Stand your ground, and if he does try to get you back, tell him you will both need to talk about that a lot before you make a decision. If you do get back together, some counseling might help. In the meantime, stay busy, go out with friends, and try to stay positive. Good luck! You deserve better! :)