Take it easy bro, I know this is tuff for you and you really need to ask yourself some BIG questions here. I think if you are going to fight if you see her, NO you should see her. She needs support here, and you can give that to her without leading her on. I would tell her that you are here for her (DO NOT FIGHT WITH HER NO MATTER WHAT!! ) if she starts fighting with you, just grit your teath and let her vent. This girl NEEDS support!! I would tell her that you don't think it would be good for either of you to get back together right now because SHE needs to get her life back on track first, and then MAYBE you can see where it goes from there. I am WARNING you BIG TIME here buddy, if you take her back when she gets out of there, she will be hounding you like crazy and your relationship will be miserable. Take it one step at a time and check your ego at the door if you go and see her. She is in that place for a good reason, so just take that into consideration. Another thing, DO NOT PITTY HER AND TAKE HER BACK!! You will lose ALL respect for her, and again your relationship will be crap. Support suppot support, if you can't give her that right now, you are doing more harm than good. This is going to be a long term thing with this girl, so you need to ask yourself if you can really cope with the mood swings she is going to have, most likely for the rest of her life. I don't know how old she is, but depression like this is usually a life long struggle. I think it should be fine for you to talk to her and SUPPORT her, but don't lead her on, let her know that SHE needs to get her life back on track and you will be there to help her out (if you can). Good luck bud, this is going to be tuff.
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