[Katie_21]

Ok me and my fiancé have been together for a little more than 2 years, and things of course used to be awesome in the bed room. He use to pay me late night visits and send me naughty pictures on my phone. But oh about 8 months into the relationship it started going down hill. We went from every night to a few times a week. Now its luckily once a week or every other week. Now I'm not ashamed to say I LIKE SEX! I don't have to have it every night but I do enjoy it, it's a very spiritual thing between lovers and it feels good. When I bring up having sex he says "Sex isnt important to me" and gets mad because I have to have sex and that's not what a relationship should be based on. Now I honestly KNOW he isn't cheating on me we are ALWAYS together! I just don't understand why he doesn't think about my needs. He gets mad at me for always wanting it. Is it so bad to want sex? He just says he doesn't feel like it and doesn't want to. And its very hard not to feel that it is because of me. I have gained weight and does he just not find me attractive anymore. I don't know what it do. Please help me...

[Wondergirl]

Perhaps he wants to get to know you as a whole person with a mind and soul rather than just the female body part of you.

The sex will become even more meaningful when it occurs if you go with the idea of becoming each other's best friend.

[kujhawk48]

Have you talked to him about this, just to let him know that the reason you find it so important is because of the spiritual/special bond it creates? Maybe he would look at it differently and want to connect more.

Good luck! :)

[jeffatl]

Maybe he is bored. Try something new. Surprise him naked when he comes home or something. Spice things up a bit... Only thing I can think of, unless he has been stressed out.

[crushedovernover]

No offense but be his little slut for the evening. From a guys point of view. Coming home to a wify who is just ready and willing to please him and have nothing in return is always a bonus..

[JManning]

crushedovernover: that doesn't always work

[Gemini54]

Er, talking to him about what is happening is the way to go I reckon.

Yes, you can appear at the front door buck naked with a bow tied around your waist, but what do you do if he takes fright and runs for the hills?

Guys are like girls - they hate being hassled for sex. I'm not saying you're hassling, but the fact that you ask him and tell him you need sex is clearly making him defensive and making him withdraw.

So talk. Honestly and frankly without recriminations or the attitude that you're not getting enough and that you have needs which aren't being met.

Something is happening, it may well be your weight that is the issue - or it may well be something else entirely.

The only way you will know is to talk. This is the test of any good relationship - to see if you can communicate about this sensitive issue!

[Synnen]

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