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theking87 · Oct 19, 2007, 10:58 PM

Hello everyone,

Here's my story, me and my ex girlfriend broke up like 3 or 4 weeks ago and we went out for 4 months. We broke up because I wasn't being affectionate, sweet, caring. Now I probably should have leave it alone for a few weeks, but I didn't and I tried to get back with her. I wrote her a letter stating how I feel about her, basically everything that I wanted to get off my chest. After she got it and told me thank you for the letter and card which was fantastic and said her decision was still sticking. We are friends now and yesterday he asked me an interesting question, how come I became sweet and caring after we broke up? I said because it was hard for me to open up, but I wanted you to know how I felt about you and made a mistake by not being affectionate, so I wanted to fix it and make this relationship work. Does anyone have any advice on what I should do ? I heard an advice to call her in like a week and ask her to come get a cup of coffee with me, so we can just talk have I can make her feel that attraction she has or had for me. Also I wanted to know if she is dating anyone or misses me? But I don't want to sound desperate, so what would you recommend? Get back to me as soon as possible.
Thank you,
Eugene

theking87 · Oct 19, 2007, 11:04 PM

Can anyone help me? Please

AustProd6 · Oct 20, 2007, 01:58 AM

OK, you only get one chance to get it right in life. Having said that you need to show her that you are caring and loving. If you want her back, give some caring and attention to someone else. She knows you have changed by the sounds of it. I am sure she will just hate to think somebody else may be getting the attention she wanted. Go a little cold turkey on her. Limit your contact. Let her know you are available to others.
Drives them nuts a little.
Stop focusing on whether she is seeing someone else. Turn the tables a little and regain the power.

theking87 · Oct 20, 2007, 07:50 AM

I don't call her or talk to her online that much anymore. Don't you find it interesting that out of nowhere she imed me and after few minutes of talking so asks me how come I become sweet and caring after we broke up? I found that to be like why are you asking me that? Did you want to see something? After that I asked her how do you feel about me honestly? And she told me what do you mean? I thought we are friends and I said we are, but I wanted to know in general and she never answered. So you think I should just leave it alone and give my caring to someone else, because she isn't worth it right? Thanks

friend4u178 · Oct 21, 2007, 04:23 AM

Hi king
It sounds to me like she has lost attraction for you. Whether that is because you failed to show affection (as you say) or for some other reason you really need to just let her be for a while. If she really wants to get back with you she will , but you mustn't make the mistake of trying to push her , that will only make her pull away more. Go NC and make her miss you. If its meant to be she will come back, I wish you luck!

theking87 · Oct 21, 2007, 08:53 AM

What do you mean go NC ? At this point I have stopped any contact with her and from the looks of her yesterday's away message she had sex with her best friend and her other friend which is a guy and most likely she is dating him.. maybe it's a joke I don't know. What would you suggest I do except no contact ? Get back to me as soon as possible.
Thanks.