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    Oct 15, 2007, 12:41 AM
    HIV can it get in the way?
    Ok so I have a question for anyone who might know but I will say that I'm very scared to ask. Is it possible to have a baby with a sergeant mother even if I have hiv? See the problem is that I was with a partner for 3 and a half years and found out that in the last four months of our relationship he was having sex with a friend of mine that is hiv positive and now I am too. I really want to have kids and I want them to be part of my family line so I want to use a sergeant mother but I will not be willing to put anyone else health at risk so if anyone knows the answer or at least where I can find one please let me know. Thank you so much for your time.
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    Oct 15, 2007, 02:58 AM
    I think you mean 'surrogate mother' and I actually think it is best that you sit down with your doctor and discuss your plans seeing as there is HIV involved. I hope you can come to some conclusion that way.
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    Oct 15, 2007, 06:36 AM
    I agree with the previous posts... you need to discuss this all with your doctor.

    But as long as you are using an egg and sperm from a non-infected HIV donor... the risk would be zero.

    But definitely discuss all your options with your doctor. There are many modern day drugs that can reduce the risk of transmission of HIV to your baby to less that 2%... and that is with YOU getting pregnant on your own with artificial insemination from a partner that is HIV negative and planning ahead.

    Here is a site you can read about that...
    HIV, pregnancy, mothers and babies

    Best of luck! :)
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    Oct 15, 2007, 06:54 AM
    Just to add, and play devils advocate (food for thought really), that if you are planning on adopting this baby from the surrogate mother, many judges will not allow adoption to an HIV patient as the future is uncertain for parents due to the terminal outcome of the illness and will leave the child without a parent.
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    Oct 15, 2007, 07:08 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by J_9
    Just to add, and play devils advocate (food for thought really), that if you are planning on adopting this baby from the surrogate mother, many judges will not allow adoption to an HIV patient as the future is uncertain for parents due to the terminal outcome of the illness and will leave the child without a parent.
    Ooooohhhh very good point!!
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    Oct 20, 2007, 11:23 PM
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