[lostinatrance]

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 8 months now and we're doing really well, only I often get really jealous of this girl he's friends with. He's liked this girl since before we started going out but he's always liked me and has known me like 7 months longer than he's known her so he asked me out, not her, but they're still friends. They've started talking a lot more recently though and I know she likes him, I'm normally not worried about him cheating but when it comes to this girl, I am. Also, this girl is like me in MANY ways and my boyfriend likes to bring up things she does or says that are things I do or say frequently, which honestly just makes me get more worried because if she's a lot like me, the chances of him liking her as much as he likes me are higher. Well he went to her house for the first time today and they're still hanging out (it's 7:30) and I just texted him asking if he's still at her house and if he is then to text me when he leaves so I can call him because I want to talk to him without her being there, and he said he's still there and he'll probably leave around 9. The fact that he's hanging out with her that long scares me. I don't know if I'm overreacting but he just talks about her a lot and I'm just really scared that he's going to cheat on me with her. Also, I'm not allowed to date (even though I'll be 18 in a few months) and my dad hates my boyfriend so I can't even hang out with him, so we have to sneak around to see each other so we don't see each other very often and he recently lost his internet so we haven't talked all that much the past few days, and I know he's been talking to her a lot. I'm scared she's going to replace me or he's going to start loving her and not me. Am I being ridiculous or what? I'm just really confused, and right now I feel like **** because he knew I wanted to see him today, he could drive to the park near my house and I can go for a walk and meet up with him without my dad knowing which my boyfriend does sometimes and I'd be able to see him for at least an hour and then once he left my house he could've gone to the other girls house but no he just went to her house even after I asked if he could go to the park near my house. I'm not a very demanding girlfriend, I don't ask for much, and I'm usually pretty understanding of his needs and give him his space, but the jealousy that I feel with her is just too much, I can't take this anymore and I don't want to ask him to stop talking to her because I'm not the type of girlfriend that would do that. :[


By the way, this isn't the first girl that has been an issue. He was also very friendly with this girl Alex that he also liked before we started going out, and they almost started dating but he decided to ask me out instead of her and Sammy (the girl mentioned above). He also talked about her frequently (they stopped being friends two months ago though so he doesn't talk about her anymore so now it's just Sammy)
Any advice would be really appreciated.


Oh and if anybody knows any songs that have to do with loving your boyfriend but being really jealous of another girl.. please tell me, I've been looking for one to relate to but I haven't found one.

[MeandYou4Ever]

If I were you I would have a problem with that. Only if they are hanging out alone. There is no need for that and its kind of disrespectful to you in a way. The hardest part is that your not allowed to date, why is that? Can you when your 18? Why doesn't your dad like him? If I were you I would get to the bottom of this for your own state of mind you know? I would have a long conversation with him about this. Because with out trust and honesty then you have nothing. Be good to you, and don't ever let a man get one over on you like that. Your better then that...

[lostinatrance]

I can't date because my dad's just overprotective. I didn't start living with my dad until three years ago, before then I lived with my grandma in New York.. so he doesn't really know me so he never got to know if he can trust me I guess, but yeah I can't hang out with guys. My dad hates him because my dad knows that he likes me and I like him. If he hung out with Sammy with other people it wouldn't bother me that much, but it was alone. I want to talk to him about it but we haven't been alone lately.. and we're about to hang out at the park but he's bringing our friend Melodie along with him.. he asked if I cared that she came but she was with him so if I said I didn't want her coming, that'd just be mean. I don't know what to do :|

[MeandYou4Ever]

What part of New York? Where are you now? Sweetie your in a stickie situation. Are you allowed to date when you turn 18? And why wasn't your dad in your life for so long? Personaly I don't think it is any of your fathers business if you have a boyfriend or not, but I guess the saying is true his house his rules. BUt it is only human you know? I would ask Melodie if she could give you guys some time alone together so you could have a privite conversation, if she's a good friend she would understand, and I would talk to him about it. Because that would really bother me too. Because if he is hanging out with this chick sammy alone I would be very upset about it. I would get to the bottom of it. Good luck to you.

[Leidenschaftlich für Wahr]

Even my husband said that its completely rational that if he wants to hang out with this other chick that you should demand to be present. I wouldn't be surprised at all if he was cheating, and when you grow older you'll begin to realize that dad really knows what he's talking about. Listen to him!
Id leave this guy, honestly. There is ABSOLUTELY no reason that a guy who is in a relationship should have ANY reason to be at another girls house until 9 o clock, and that's just to hang out! He wasn't even resourceful enough to say he was doing school or something.
Grow a little backbone, and respect for yourself...