[michele1]

My boyfriend and I off six months have had one rollercoaster ride relationship. I found out recently that the reason he has gone cold on me is because he doesn't feel secure or trust's me? What should I do to regain his trust and make our relationship work? I love him very much and plan to spend the rest of my life with him, but he finds it difficult me being flirty and me going out on my own with out him.

[ConfusedandLost]

I think you just answered your own question... I would start by inviting him out with you when you go out... that would be a positive step in the right direction...

The other question is "why are you doing this to him?" and "would you tolerate and put up with this if he was doing this to you?".

[kitten269]

Michele

I understand being flirty because I'm that type of person as well. Do you really want to be with him or are you comfortable? Why do you flirt with other guys? I know when I have before it made me feel good that they gave me attention. My boyfriend gives me attention but I expect that from him.
It's not fair to him your behavior, if you're committed to someone, you should'nt be sending the wrong signals to other men. I don't know how old you are, but I will tell you, at some point you will realize which is more important. I know I did. My wreckless behavior has caused damage to our relationship and now hopefully we can fix this.

Wish you the best

[smoothy]

You said it all, you like flirting with guys when you pretend to be with him... thats a slap in the face to most guys and has nothing to do with being secure.

How would you feel if it was him hitting up on all your lady friends pinching their butts and such?

I'll bet you'd get steamed if the shoe was on the other foot.