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OurGreatestYear · Sep 30, 2007, 07:02 PM

okay, I am not sure at all how to explain all of this, and still keep it brief, but I'll try...anyway, two years ago I met a girl named Jessica. we became friends very fast, and at one point, I was there to help her with a patch of depression she was going through. during this time she told me things such as "I'm so thankful that you're my friend; we've been through so much.", "I know I can always count on you no matter what", and "I'm glad to know I have such a good friend as you"

.........never before had someone spoken to or of me this way, and it was one of the most touching things ever, to me. I of course, developed romantic feelings for her, but, as the idiot that I tend to be, never acted on them for fear of ruining the friendship. So I went on to have other girlfriends, and my feelings for her, in that sense, faded.

...until recently. I am currently single, and have for the past several weeks been thinking about this girl alot. Her and I have drifted apart alot, due to each of us becoming busy with certain things in life, as well as the fact that she transferred to a different school in a nearby town. Right now, I'm missing her so much that it kind of hurts.

Bottom line is, I want to talk to her about these things, see if there's a chance for her and I, and just explain how I feel without sounding like a creep or a wuss (for want of a much better word)...I want to tell her everything, because I know that If I keep on pretending that nothing's going on; that everything's okay, then nothing will ever happen. I am a senior in high school, and in my mind, the time I have to talk to her is increasingly diminishing. Once I move out on to college, things would get even busier and...idk...

I just want to talk to her, so my question isn't if I should or not, but rather, how to go about it? How do I bring it up when I call her? should I suggest hanging out sometime and then while we're hanging out, sometime towards the end, just mention that I want to talk to her? I am just so confused here....

...she is just too far amazing of a girl for me to risk losing from my life forever. Im not saying she's perfect, since as any human being, she has her definate flaws, but she is all in all, a wonderful, beautiful girl.

so, thanks for you time. I appreciate it.

OurGreatestYear · Oct 1, 2007, 05:11 AM

Right, 7 views, no replies.

Seriously people, I need help.

lsreally · Oct 1, 2007, 07:36 AM

Awwww that's the cutest story ever. My fiancé and I kind of happened the same way. The best way to go about something like that is to just go for it. How will you ever know if it could have been unless you just jump on the horse as my grandma would say. Don't set your hopes to high because disappointment sucks. Be positive and honest. Speaking to her in person would be the best option.

funky1 · Oct 1, 2007, 08:06 AM

Go for it.I was in the type of same situation with a guy... and believe me you only know what you could have had after she leaves you.So go for it and ask her if she feels something.
U may start with something like... try to be with her alone or with your best friend and look at her and when she looks back make eyecontact and laugh a bit.If she laughs back probably she feels the same way... and then bring up the subject and if you like you can send your friend to buy you something or he can make up that his friend is waiting for him somewhere so you and this girl have sometime alone.(do this friend thing after you laugh if you think it will be easier for you and this girl to talk).
Hope I helped & let me know .
Good luck ;)

OurGreatestYear · Oct 1, 2007, 04:14 PM

Originally Posted by lsreally

Awwww thats the cutest story ever. My fiance and I kind of happened the same way. The best way to go about something like that is to just go for it. How will you ever know if it could have been unless you just jump on the horse as my grandma would say. Don't set your hopes to high because disappointment sucks. Be positive and honest. Speaking to her in person would be the best option.

Haha thanks :).

I suppose you're right, there's no way of knowing unless you really just go for it.
I am just really nervous and scared about it; worried she'll think I'm weird or creepy, or whatever, espically for waiting this long to talk to her about it.

But maybe I'm just being paranoid. Anyway, thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it. :)

OurGreatestYear · Oct 1, 2007, 04:18 PM

Originally Posted by funky1

Go for it.I was in the type of same situation with a guy...and believe me you only know what you could have had after she leaves you.So go for it and ask her if she feels something.
U may start with something like...try to be with her alone or with your bestfriend and look at her and when she looks back make eyecontact and laugh a bit.If she laughs back probably she feels the same way...and then bring up the subject and if you like you can send your friend to buy you something or he can make up that his friend is waiting for him somewhere so you and this girl have sometime alone.(do this friend thing after you laugh if you think it will be easier for you and this girl to talk).
Hope I helped & let me know .
Good luck ;)

True, only after things have faded and distanced themselves apart can you really see what you had/could've had...

That's actually a pretty good idea there, I actually was thinking of inviting her to hang out with my best friend and I this weekend, so that might work. I don't know...
I'll see how it goes, if she does hang out with us.

Thanks though.:)
I really appreciate it.

R0cKin_t33N · Oct 1, 2007, 04:48 PM

go for it u guys sound like both or you were meant for each other ;)

OurGreatestYear · Oct 2, 2007, 05:08 AM

Originally Posted by R0cKin_t33N

go for it u guys sound like both or you were meant for each other ;)

Haha, I don't know about all that, if we were really "meant for each other" I'd think she would make more of an effort to not drift apart from me, or want to be with me or something.

But who knows, I sure don't haha. Thanks though.

funky1 · Oct 2, 2007, 07:45 AM

Originally Posted by OurGreatestYear

haha, I don't know about all that, if we were really "meant for each other" I'd think she would make more of an effort to not drift apart from me, or want to be with me or something.

Better try before you say that... nothing happens so easily... and everything has it story and memories.

OurGreatestYear · Oct 2, 2007, 08:41 AM

Originally Posted by funky1

Better try before you say that....nothing happens so easily....and everything has it story and memories.

Maybe...

You're right I guess, nothing happens that easily.

crushed18 · Oct 2, 2007, 09:38 AM

Originally Posted by OurGreatestYear

okay, I am not sure at all how to explain all of this, and still keep it brief, but I'll try...anyway, two years ago I met a girl named Jessica. we became friends very fast, and at one point, I was there to help her with a patch of depression she was going through. during this time she told me things such as "I'm so thankful that you're my friend; we've been through so much.", "I know I can always count on you no matter what", and "I'm glad to know I have such a good friend as you"

.........never before had someone spoken to or of me this way, and it was one of the most touching things ever, to me. I of course, developed romantic feelings for her, but, as the idiot that I tend to be, never acted on them for fear of ruining the friendship. So I went on to have other girlfriends, and my feelings for her, in that sense, faded.

...until recently. I am currently single, and have for the past several weeks been thinking about this girl alot. Her and I have drifted apart alot, due to each of us becoming busy with certain things in life, as well as the fact that she transferred to a different school in a nearby town. Right now, I'm missing her so much that it kind of hurts.

Bottom line is, I want to talk to her about these things, see if there's a chance for her and I, and just explain how I feel without sounding like a creep or a wuss (for want of a much better word)...I want to tell her everything, because I know that If I keep on pretending that nothing's going on; that everything's okay, then nothing will ever happen. I am a senior in high school, and in my mind, the time I have to talk to her is increasingly diminishing. Once I move out on to college, things would get even busier and...idk...

I just want to talk to her, so my question isn't if I should or not, but rather, how to go about it? How do I bring it up when I call her? should I suggest hanging out sometime and then while we're hanging out, sometime towards the end, just mention that I want to talk to her? I am just so confused here....

...she is just too far amazing of a girl for me to risk losing from my life forever. Im not saying she's perfect, since as any human being, she has her definate flaws, but she is all in all, a wonderful, beautiful girl.

so, thanks for you time. I appreciate it.

Just go for it it might turn out that she's into you to but she never thought you would ever have feelings for her because you were too busy with your life and like you said you were with other girls but if you helped her out then I'm sure she appritates it and it sounds like she's a great girl I hope everything works out <3

OurGreatestYear · Oct 2, 2007, 12:56 PM

Originally Posted by crushed18

just go for it it might turn out that shes into you to but she never thought you would ever have feelings for her because you were too busy with your life and like you said you were with other girls but if you helped her out then im sure she appritates it nd it sounds like shes a great girl i hope everything works out <3

Haha yeah, "just go for it" seems to be the piece of advice I'm consistently getting on here. I wish it were that easy, and I wasn't a nervous, shy dude haha.

Im pretty sure she knows I have feelings for her, or did at one time, as I got her a beanie baby once to help her feel better after a friend of hers she used to know died in a car accident, and I included a note with it that was pretty, haha, I don't know, sweet... so I don't know. Not to mention one time she filled out one of those myspace friendship survey things I posted, and one of the questions was "would you ever kiss me" and she answered with "idk"... so I doubt she was ever in to me... and I know she isn't in to me now.

But then again, another question on that survey was "have you ever wanted to tell me something but couldn't?", and she answered with "eh, yeah." so... who knows what that thing she couldn't tell me was...

Anyway, thanks for your reply. :)

mwilliams15 · Oct 2, 2007, 01:04 PM

AWW that is so sweet. I bet if she read that she'd love you! Lol.. but anways in all seriousness.. go for it! You will never know until you try. If you go for it and it doesn't go good, then don't worry about it because at least you will know you tried and you will finally be able to get over it. Just ask her to hang out or something. Maybe to lunch, a movie.. nothing very expensive just something casual. Then get on the subject of maybe a good memory that you two have together.. maybe something funny that happened.. then tell her you miss spending time with her.. let it progress from there. I hope I helped somehow.. good luck! You seem like a great guy :)

OurGreatestYear · Oct 2, 2007, 01:09 PM

Originally Posted by mwilliams15

AWW that is so sweet. I bet if she read that she'd love ya! lol.. but anways in all seriousness.. go for it! You will never know until you try. If you go for it and it doesnt go good, then dont worry about it because at least you will know you tried and you will finally be able to get over it. Just ask her to hang out or something. Maybe to lunch, a movie.. nothing very expensive just something casual. Then get on the subject of maybe a good memory that you two have together.. maybe something funny that happened.. then tell her you miss spending time with her.. let it progress from there. I hope I helped somehow.. good luck!! You seem like a great guy :)

Haha, thanks.

That is true, if it doesn't end up well, then I can at least know I tried, instead of doing absolutely nothing. I can imagine hanging out with her would be really fun, and yes, there are plenty of memories I could bring up for us to laugh over haha. I'm sure it'd go fine from there.

In fact, on the 26th my band is playing at a starbucks in town, and a lot of kids I know are going, maybe I could invite her to that and hang out with her a little then as well?
I'll have to see how it all goes... thanks though, I really appreciate it.

R0cKin_t33N · Oct 2, 2007, 03:16 PM

Originally Posted by OurGreatestYear

haha, I don't know about all that, if we were really "meant for each other" I'd think she would make more of an effort to not drift apart from me, or want to be with me or something.

but who knows, I sure don't haha. thanks though.

i agree with Funky, I really think that u should try it before u begin to judge......it might really work if not than just move on there are many fish in the sea:)

Homegirl 50 · Oct 2, 2007, 03:34 PM

I'd like to know what occurred in your life that all of a sudden you're wanting to get with his girl. Are you just lonely and bored.
I ask this to say, talk to her if you like, but don't start engaging her on a whim just because you're in between girls.

OurGreatestYear · Oct 2, 2007, 03:40 PM

Originally Posted by R0cKin_t33N

i agree with Funky, I really think that u should try it before u begin to judge......it might really work if not than just move on there are many fish in the sea:)

Yeah, I guess so.

OurGreatestYear · Oct 2, 2007, 03:44 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I'd like to know what occurred in your life that all of a sudden you're wanting to get with his girl. Are you just lonely and bored.
I ask this to say, talk to her if you like, but don't start engaging her on a whim just because you're in between girls.

Nah, it's not just from being bored and loney/between girls. Really.
What occurred was me just thinking about my life to this point, and after a night of hanging out at a ball game with my best friend we began talking about the "old times" and all that, and really feeling that she is really important. It's hard to explain I guess...

But really it's not just because Im between girlfriends.

Homegirl 50 · Oct 2, 2007, 03:54 PM

So it's a nostalgia kind of thing, thinking about your life and old times.
Sure, give her a call, ask her out for lunch and talk. See where it goes.

OurGreatestYear · Oct 3, 2007, 05:16 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

So it's a nostalgia kind of thing, thinking about your life and old times.
Sure, give her a call, ask her out for lunch and talk. See where it goes.

Yeah, that's a pretty good way of describing it.
So I'll give her a call, see how it ends up I guess.