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michaelgirl07 · Sep 19, 2007, 09:49 AM

I am 21yrs. Old and on limited guardianship. Could I get married without my mother permission?

LearningAsIGo · Sep 19, 2007, 09:58 AM

I'm sorry, I don't understand what Limited Guardianship is. Could you explain?

michaelgirl07 · Sep 19, 2007, 10:17 AM

My mother has limited guardianship over my education but I have no education now. She can make rehabilitive placement, residential placement and medical decisions on my behalf. She does want me to be placed into a position where I am subjected to exploitation due to my borderline intellectual functioning. Mom mom does care about me. She treats me like a kid. I'm 21yrs. Old. I want to get married and live in Charleston but she won't let me. She is the conservator over my ssi. She gives my money to other people but I only get some of it. I got my drivers license but no car. She gave $500 of my money to my brother to put a new motor in his car. Is that fair? I would just like to get married and live on my own. Could I do it without my mother permission?

ScottGem · Sep 19, 2007, 10:24 AM

Sounds like the answer is no. If your mom has legal guardianship over you due to a mental incapacity, then the fact that you are 21 doesn't have a bearing.

What you NEED to do is file a petition in Family Court to have the guardianship overturned. You will need to prove that you have sufficient mental capacity to make your own decisions and care for yourself.

michaelgirl07 · Sep 19, 2007, 10:31 AM

She doesn't legal guardianship over me. She has limited guardianship. There is nothing wrong with me except I am bi-polar. I'm not retarded as everyone thinks. I take medications. I can't go to Family Court because I have no way there. I can't go anywhere because she keeps me in the house. I have no friends except the ones in Charleston, WV. She won't let me see my dad or my grandma. She calls me a and a hore. I can't live like this.

LearningAsIGo · Sep 19, 2007, 11:09 AM

Are you currently engaged? Maybe you could sit down with her and your fiancé and talk about the new life you would like to begin.

michaelgirl07 · Sep 19, 2007, 11:36 AM

We both talked to her but it didn't help. She is a Jehovah Witness. She doesn't like him because he is not a witness. She called him a nothing. I don't know what to do?

ScottGem · Sep 19, 2007, 12:17 PM

Doesn't matter whether its full legal guardianship or limited guardianship. The fact is a court awarded it and only a court can take it away. So you need to file a petition in Family Court to end the guardianship.

I would suggest calling your local Family Services agency and enlist their aid.

nikki_22 · Sep 19, 2007, 12:25 PM

You need to call a lawyer immediately. Could your mom be in it for the money? If you have to hide in the bathroom to call a lawyer without her knowing do so! Go to website called mindfreedom.com (www)They may be able to help you find out what you're rights are and put you in touch with people who can help you. Look online for advocacy groups. Call the local social services administration and tell them about your mom's verbal abuse. If you're mom is giving your money to others then THIS IS A FEDERAL CRIME. My friends mom did the same thing and got in trouble for it. Let your mental health professional know about your mom's abuse. It will be a long fight but you can do it ! I know people who have. I would like to help you with any questions you have. I will look online and see if I can find some advocacy groups to help you. Tape record your mom telling others she will give them your money. That is a crime and her power of attorney can be overturned in court. I would definitely contact some lawyers. Do you know any trusted adults who would help you? It sounds as if your mom may be trying to keep you away from other relatives because maybe they don't agree with what she is doing. The way your mom speaks to you IS verbal abuse and makes her unfit as your guardian. Mental health stuff is serious and I'm not telling you to stop your meds or anything like that, but it sounds to me like you need a new evaluation from a doctor who isn't cashing in on your mom. Let me know any questions you have- my email is {e-mail address edited out-<>} Whether you are bipolar, there is no excuse for your mom's actions. I don't know what to tell you about marriage, don't know the situation. Also, if your mom is forcing you to be a jehova's witness and you don't want to, that's wrong too. Even if you are bipolar, you are a smart valuable person and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. A lot of famous people were bipolar like Mozart and Einstein! God Bless You and Good Luck.

shygrneyzs · Sep 19, 2007, 02:05 PM

I agree with Nikki's advice. I would also suggest calling your local Social Security office and telling them that your Mother is giving you disability check to others and not using it for your needs. That is fraud and would be investigated.

It sounds like your Mom is over reaching her authority on the guardianship. You need to lodge a complaint with Social Security. Ask for a hearing and evaluation. You are not powerless. I agree that you should contact an attorney - see if there is a Legal Aid/Legal Assistance in your area that would take your case.

s_cianci · Sep 22, 2007, 03:36 PM

You've been given good advice here. If you're only problem is being bi-polar and you are taking medication for it and that medication is keeping it under control then there's no practical or moral reason for your mother or anyone else to retain any type of guardianship over you and you should have no problem getting a judge to overturn it.

michaelgirl07 · Sep 24, 2007, 06:52 AM

Thanks to all! I called a lawyer and she is going to help me