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    nyentinydragonflies Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Sep 12, 2007, 01:28 AM
    Will I ever be able to have a natural orgasm?
    I am 32 and I have never had a natural orgasm. In previous relationships I thought it was just the fact that I actually was not in love with that person. But after being with my husband now for 7 years who I love with all my heart and soul. I still need a vibrator to have an orgasm. What do I have to do to reach climax naturally? I have tried the expensive creams and the cheep clitoral creams. Nothing works except my (small) but very loud and somewhat intrusive vibrator "the egg". I just want to show my husband
    How much I really love him inside of me. So I am asking anyone who can help me in my situation. This has gone on for too long and I just want a natural orgasm. Not one brought on by a vibrator.
    Sincerely,
    Nyentinydragonflies
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    Sep 12, 2007, 05:18 AM
    Reliance on a vibrator can make it harder to get off other ways. I've got that from several woman I have known.

    However, with that said, he has to have some clue as to what it takes to get you off, and you also have to have the ability to be able to relax and guide him.

    Stress about it and you only make the problem worse.
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    Sep 13, 2007, 03:49 AM
    Stop using your vibrator for a while, get extremely horny and then have sex with your husband. I tend to agree with smoothy, reliance on substitutes for sex tends to spoil the real thing for most women.
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    Sep 13, 2007, 10:15 AM
    I agree...

    1) Hold out for his unit rather than the electrical one.
    2) realize that not all women have vaginal orgasms
    3) tell him how you get off if you CAN without a vibrator
    CAN YOU?
    4) re-introduce the vibrator once you have done 1-3
    And try new positions as well.

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