Originally Posted by
klienerllama
it isnt my first time as i had a bad relationship before where i got raped often, but he hasnt done it yet, im terrified of having sex again i dont know what to do and i want to enjoy it and i want him to enjoy but i dont know how to enjoy doing it or get him to enjoy it hehe
I hope you've been to therapy for this before now. If he isn't fully aware of all of this things might get a bit rocky real quick.
Just relax, most guys are not into rough sex, slapping around the woman or anything to that effect. Its still going to be a first for you as a couple so that is going to have a nice bit of excitement just for that reason. Over time you learn what each of you like and you do what he likes and he does what you like. Keeping the lines of communication open instead of drawing lines about what you won't do and how you won't do it.
Keep in mind this is based on him being gentle with you. New couples will be apprehensive at first till they get to know each others likes and dislikes at an intimate level. Trust me that my wife and I are into stuff neither of us dreamed of when we first married. But we slowly moved into stuff that gets either of us or both excited and keeps the fire alive.
