[Michelle0410]

I figured this question belonged in relationships and not dating, if I'm wrong I apologize. I have a personal question for everyone. tell me if you think it's immaturity or something else. In the last three years me and my little girl's dad have been on and off. Inbetween the breakups I dated and became semi serious with two other guys (this is all in the span of three years) Everytime things start to get serious with anyone I avoid it, I run away from it completely and end up hurting whoever has began to care for me. When they were overally nice, it would drive me crazy, then I would nit pick every little thing sometimes looking for a reason to get out of the relationship simply because things were getting serious. So now I have had a beautiful little girl, her dad is here and there (he works out of town) I have no feelings for him whatsoever, there's alot of resentment there, if you have read my other posts you probably know why. She is five months old now and I havent dated anyone since I found out that I was pregnant with her, until now... I recently started talking to someone I dated in high school, but now that we have been talking for a little over two months he wants to move things to the next level and guess who is starting to second think EVERYTHING! Me... Having my little girl, I don't want to be like this, I have no idea why I am so scared of commitment now... I don't want her brought up like this. I know better but I don't know how to change my mind about it. If I meet a guy that is interested in him, he'll ask my friends about me and they say this everytime, "She will date but wants nothing serious, don't be too nice, and if you fall in love with her dont tell her because that will scare her off" Is something wrong with me?? I don't even think it is that things move to fast because I have dated a guy for 6 months then when the "L" word came out I was gone?? Someone please help me...

[talaniman]

Your fears are based on your past, and are a way to protect your feelings from further damage, which is so very human. You will get over those feelings when you become more secure in yourself, and can completely let go of the past. It will take time.