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    rondal Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Aug 21, 2007, 05:36 PM
    Single mom ready to give up
    I need help my six year old will not listen to me his father is not in
    His life he's been kicked out of daycare at 3 broke into a car at 4 he's tried
    Smoking I've tried both positive reinforcment plus negaative consequences
    No matter what I do with this child he has no remorce for what he does
    And does not care I'm pulling my hair out over him everyday is a battle and I'm really
    Scared its going to get worse I've tried evrything I can think of please help me I'm a single mom who wants some peace in her life
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    Aug 21, 2007, 05:47 PM
    IMO he's rebelling in a major way. Who gives him these ideas? Who's influencing him now?

    If you don't have the traditional support's available, have you considered a Big Brother's program so he can be exposed to male authority figures?

    Um, like something short of like a Tough Love camp or..
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    LearningAsIGo Posts: 2,653, Reputation: 350
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    #3

    Aug 22, 2007, 07:18 AM
    My goodness.

    Who IS in his life besides you? Is he hanging out with negative influences? WHO gave him something to smoke?! Whoever those adults are need to be kept away from your son! What type of child care does he receive? (I'm assuming you must leave him to work) Seriously look into who he's with during the day and consider finding new help.

    He's acting out, possibly due to feeling anxious, stressed, and sad. Kids don't know how to articulate their emotions, so they react with physical violence or bad behavior on occasion. He needs help finding other outlets besides this destructive behavior.
    Here's a link to Captain Rich's suggestion: Big Brothers Big Sisters. They can help your son by keeping him active and giving him a positive roll model.

    At home, give him extra hugs and show him you care and love him. Get him to understand that because you love him you will not tolerate those bad things that will hurt him. When he misbehaves have serious consequences to go with his actions. And STICK TO IT. No backing down so he eventually gets his way.

    You may also want to get him into counseling. There are government agencies that can help if you need them to, but your son needs this imo. If he truly feels no remorse, it could be a sign of a more serious problem. A counselor will also help you get the root of his emotions, which he may not know how to properly express.

    Good luck to you and your son.
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    Aug 23, 2007, 06:45 AM
    As Dr. Phil would say you can turn anyone around especially at that age. You take away what they love the most

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