[Lonely Wife]

Ok here is my story… I have been married for 10 years never once cheated or enough given it serious thought (I have been given opportunity to but never acted on it). I have one wonderful little boy who has convinced out of grieve and not love. Those that are close to me know that I have been unhappy for some time now. I try and tell my husband how I feel and he promises change but it never last beyond a month or so. My husband has forgotten it is the little things that count. Our lives have been in a major rut for several years now. He refusing to go to counseling with me because he feel he does not need it. Well recently he left for a business trip and I noticed I was not sad that he was gone. A few weeks ago I meet another man whom I have fallen for. He wants to let our relationship be known so that way people around can know how we feel for each other. He has interacted with my son at mutual friend’s houses and he is wonderful with him. I have been married once before and left my ex for my current and I feel like I am just repeating the cycle again. I am not saying I am looking at remarrying. I am currently not in a position to be on my own. I am not able to work at this time and I need to take care of my son. I am so confused because I do love my husband but I am no longer in love with the man that he has become. How many more chances should I give him before I finally say enough is enough? And what should I do about bringing my other relationship out in the open? I honestly feel deep inside that my husband would not fight for our relationship for us but would fight just because of our son. I do not believe in staying together just for kids.

[lmnotok]

What is the serious problem that you have with your husband?

[Dennis777]

Hello.

Im Sorry but what are you thinking!! Your putting your child in this... I don't normally get upset but this over the top. No matter how you feel about your husband you should never put your child in the middle. Saying this other Man is getting to know your child at friends homes.

If your not happy with your husband then leave him and then you can think about being with another Man, Once you and your child have learned to deal with it. As you said you left your first man to be with your husband. Now your looking at doing the same thing. IT NEVER WORKS... Think about what kind of Man will be with another Man's wife. Is that the type of man you want to be with and do you want your child to be with him. Do you honestly think he will stay with you long term and treat you like the special lady you are. NO WAY he will be looking for another needy Lady as soon as the spark is gone.

Dennis777

[s_cianci]

As Imnotok points out, you don't give much to go on but I kind of smell a rat here. You left one man for your current husband and are now contemplating leaving your current husband for yet another man. Like I said in the greenie I gave to Dennis, is this how you would want your son's wife to be? I don't know if your husband needs counseling or not, that remains to be seen. But I definitely think you need to seek out counseling for yourself.