[Reijhleen]

So here's the thing. My Best friend has a girlfriend who always dissapoints him. I give him great advice all the time and he always has the same response... "I try to get over her but I just can't let her go". I feel bad for him though because she is always letting him down and she didn't even go to his own Birthday. That was really sad like he almost cried. They've been together 7 months and he doesn't know how to let go. What kind of advice do you think I should give him?? :(

[buzzman]

It sounds like he has to figure it out for himself. One can only be burned so many times before they figure it out. The only thing that differs from one person to the next is the length of time it takes to figure it out. It takes two for a relationship to work, and if only one cares about it, it will only be a matter of time before it is over. Sometimes the hardest things to do in life is to see someone we care for, make a hard mistake and go through pain, but it has to happen this way. The key here, is learning from it. The tragedy is when he is a repeat offender. It is the way we are built. If he is young, rejoice that he found a broken heart without children in the relationship. No matter what you have gone through, someone has gone through worse. Broken hearts are part of finding true love. Very few can truly appreciate a great partner unless you have gone through this experience. The wisest people are the ones who say little because they believe in themselves. Be there for him as a friend even if it means saying nothing. Men respect this, as we are brought up to be this way. You have said your piece. Now you have to stand by it in quiet confidence. Sometimes this is the best medicine and the sign of a true friend.

[s_cianci]

The best advice you can give him is to tell him that she is obviously not the one for him. He is not getting what he needs out of this "relationship" so it is pointless for him to continue and hold on. Her always letting him down, on his birthday and such, is not what he wants. He's actually making himself more miserable by holding on rather than letting go.

[talaniman]

You tell him to stop being stuck on stupid. Forget the candy coating. Tell him to get off the pity pot, or sit in his own shat! Then leave him alone, as you can't make him do anything until he has had enough misery and pain. Maybe he is feeding on your sympathy.

[buzzman]

You tell him to stop being stuck on stupid. Forget the candy coating. Tell him to get off the pity pot, or sit in his own shat!! Then leave him alone, as you can't make him do anything until he has had enough misery and pain. Maybe he is feeding on your sympathy.

"The feeding on sympathy" line crossed my mind as well. I agree with you... good call.