[nixie754]

:confused: I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and half years- on and off. And the reason for each break up is he's great for 4-6 months and all of a sudden wants to go out drinking to the bars, hang out at colleges with his friends and drink all the time. There was nights when he never called me while he was out. And he was mean and would fight with me and basically it would end because he seemed to now care and would continue on his way to drinking and not having me in his life. Before I met him I saw how he was drunk all the time, doing cocaine, sleeping around with some slutty girls and just so messed up. I didn't take him seriously until one day we just hit it off and things were perfect. I have always not trusted him because of things that have happened.. I was always scared he was going to go back to bar hopping ignore my calls and treat me like . We broke up for a while and he seemed to have done a 360 and everyone noticed how nice and sweet he was being

then one night he was drinking and I saw him all over my friends looking at the sexually and touching them and saying how attractive they were. I freaked out and started yelling at him in front of everyone. He looked at me with this angry face and was like what the is your problem and put it on me when I was the one who saw what he was going. He just kept on drinking. I even saw him puke and then continue again after that. Eventually he just passed out on a random chair after drinking all day long. After the incident I could never trust him and I always worried about how he was when he wasn't with me. There were times were he would just leave me, get in a stupid fight with me and it was always my fault. Sometimes even to go blow lines of coke. I told him to stop that and he did but drinking has been impossible

he drinks 4-7 beers mon-friday after work and on the weekends he could drink all day and night and that's when I see the ugliest side of him. I recently ended it because I had no respect or trust for him and I was tired of being the victim. Last weekend I refused to let him drive he started getting mad at me and I was babysitting him all night at my house and my dad was like mike you shouldn't drive and he was like you I know. He started fighting with me and threatening to leave and go to the bar over and over again and wouldn't listen to me. That night ended badly he just started treating me like and told me he did not want to be with me that night so he left after he screamed at me. He becomes this horrible person when he drinks. Of course he drove his new truck home hammered called me the next day and did not remember what we fought about. He knew something happened between us but did not remember me breaking the diamond necklace of my neck or what we were fighting about. Its very sad and he didn't want to see me the next day instead of fixing things he was drinking with his buddies... I was so upset and at that point I said its over but it's very hard to deal with this. I can never change him or never trust him. He's such a wonderful person but his drinking makes him become so unattractive and mean... anyone have any advice? I am so sad and feel so awful

[SAB123]

I think you are doing the rite thing. Can you picture yourself getting married and having kids with him and fighting all the time. I believe this will be a problem. Although I am a happy drunk my ex also broke up with me in the beginning because I would go out all the time and party with my friends and get drunk all the time. She left me, I was like what ever. Then my dad ask what's more important drinking or her. I picked her because I did care for her. I believe he will never changed this will be a problem in the future and why stay with someone who will not change. If you guys get back you will be miserable later in life. Find someone who treat you good and can handle their booze.

[BMI]

4 to 7 beers a night means he DEFINETELY is an alcoholic, plus when you are doing rails of coke you only drink more. Meaning the effects of coke make you more alert and so it negates the drowsiness of the booze, thus combinedthey make dangerous friends.

You are doing the right thing, YOU can never make him stop, he has to want to, you being around him only causes fighting for him and for you. I know it hurts but unless he is willing to seek help or hits his "bottom" there is little you can do. Sorry, I know it must be hard.

[talaniman]

Leaving him alone, to sink or swim on his own, is the only way to go to protect yourself.